No friends :(
I'm currentlya freshman at a University and I'm stressed/depressed. I had to leave my friends back home and I never see them anymore. I'm introverted, so it's kind of hard for me to make new friends easily.I literally have no friends in college and I sit in my dorm room all day with no one to talk to.The girls on my floor leave me out of stuff and don't invite me to do things with them, ever. I've made efforts to talk to them before (which is hard for an introvert to do), but they seem like they don't want to be friends with me. I've done everything I could. I'm just so sick of being depressed and being lonely that I want to commute next year. I'm not getting the "college experience" at all. I would really like some advice. I'm so depressed and Idon't know what to do :(
Hey there,
One introvert to another, there are definitelysome ways to get out there and it is not easy so no lying there. When i was in college i had similar problems. I looked for small groups that held my interest to start. It allowed me a small get to know group of people with similar interests so there was a base for conversations. It also allowed me to have a start and stop time with meeting or specific outings they did. Is there is any kind of hobby or sport you like? Perhaps a club? As far as the dorm life goes, have you tried to see if your roommate would like to go to dinner and ask you roommate to invite a few friends, that way the door is open, it is casual and the encounter allows you meet people but does not require you to do a lot of the invites. I would love to talk more to you, feel free to contact me and write, i respond pretty quickly even if it looks like i am not on line. cheers and good luck!
Hi there,
You literally just described my first year at university too! I'm naturally an introvert and I got placed in a dorm filled with extroverted people who just weren't the kind of people I'd naturally get along with so no matter how hard I tried, we just never clicked.It didn't help that all my friends from home had moved on so successfully and were getting that "uni experience".After awhile I realised it didn't matter if I wasn't friends with these people, if they weren't the kind of people I would be friends with then I'm not going to be happy being friends with them so there's no point trying with them! I agree with what Aedan says- join groups and societies! I know it's hard to start with and I had to really force myself to do it but I'm so happy I did becauseI did end up meeting some truely nice people who I could get on with. After a couple of months with these people I already feel so much happier! My depression of being alone has gone and I feel comfortable with myself now- even better, I feel less introverted! Don't get me wrong, I'm still shy around new people, but I find it easier to push myself to talk to people and when I do push myself, I get results.
Hang in there, you're never alone.
Hey as the others say keep in their. I am an introvert and have always found it difficult making friends easily. I found my first six months at uni so hard as I didnt know anyone like you & I also lived at home and travelled in so was different to others. I joined groups which was hard at first but I think helped me become more confident. Keep positive! :-)
