Friendship heartbreak

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@Tiara96

Hey there, hopefully you are doing well. There's a few things I would like to point out;

I m a final year med student n recently i brokeup with my really close friend and i m unable to move forward...(This tells me that you were projecting your unmet needs on your friend, and being without your friends takes you back to a time where you felt abanoned during your past. I believe you valued the friendship as well, which is another reason why its been so hard to move forward). she was in love with a guy( he too was really close to me) with whom she eloped n got married... he s been kicked out of his house but he does not have a job..(This can be considered a red flag, because he is showing signs of not being able to take care of himself and having a job where he can provide for his own things and the relationship). and its her family that is supporting them... (This is another red flag, they are not doing as much to solve this situation) she also has some psychiatric issues... (I don't know which kind of issues she has, but they must be some serious ones that's interfering with things) so i had been taking care of her like my own child (This is a bad idea because it'll only going to enable her behavior of not wanting to improve and other things) when she insisted that she had no one (This tells me she will cling to other people when she feels lonely, because of how she didn't receive love and care growing up) and she even made me share blame for some of her faults when i didnt have any part in it... (This is a problem...She doesn't have the proper awareness and owning responsability as an adult to be able to know who's at fault and who isn't. I believe accepting blame and shame are too hard for her, so she rather blames you on order to feel free of things. She is not fully aware of what's going on inside her, so often she will project how she feels inside into you.) now when i adviced her not to do certain stuff... (Did she asked you to do this? if she didn't then she will sabotage things) she turned against me saying if u hadnt taken care of me somelse could have... (This is coming from a place of hidden anger and being unappreciative. This is a way for her to escape or make you stop saying things to her. I also noticed she used the words "If u hadn't taken care of me", this tells me she is looking for someone to take care of her as a parent would, however she will have unreasonable expectations on the other person. Friends like this will actually worn you out, and you'll slowly begin to lose yourself in the friendship, specially when it becomes one-sided. You got to understand that the role have always been you the parents, and her the child, this is an unhealthy pattern) she refuses to listen to anything i say i dont like (Her communication its not there at all, she will put you in the parent role (which she probably despises authority figures), and then she will behave in immature or childish ways) n she hides any extra materials n question banks she gets... i have sacrificed my time money n studies for her...(This is not a good idea...This tells me you care about her, but also you did all of this so you wouldn't lose her as a friend because probably being alone is painful) but i felt it was onesided.. (It'll always be one-sided from here on) but she always tells that she d always be there for me.....(Don't look at her words, look at her actions)

I feel lost now... (This is what i mentioned briefly earlier, you have given her so much to the point you lost yourself and stopped taking care of yourself, a friendship shouldn't be like this)i have to see her and her husband evryday at college n it s only making things worse...(It's understandable you feel this way, its unfortunate you have to see them everyday) best part no one else in college knows that they are married.. What do i do to move on???