Being sidezone by my group
It is hurting me alot . Idk what is wrong with me . I can't be happy i can't enjoy . I barely go out nowadays.
Hey @Inuu06, welcome to the community.
It sounds like you're feeling hurt about your friends lack of consideration for your presence and involvement within the group. Understandable to feel bad about it, it's sad when people ignore us and make us feel unacknowledged, especially when it's a close group of friends, makes sense why you'd want to not go out and distance from them.
I'm sorry they make you feel like there's something wrong with you, but hey hey, someone else's actions and behaviour is just on them, and not a reflection of us. You deserve friends who make you feel included, and comfortable as you are, who make you feel loved and valued for who you are. ❤
With good friends, communication should be easy and safe too. We should be able to tell them how we feel and if there's something bothering us, that they may intend on considering to help us feel at ease.
How do you feel about communicating to your friends that you don't like how they act around you?
I want to tell them about what is bothering me . But i feel sharing my feelings would only drive them away . that the situation will become even worse . Coz this is not the first time this has happened every time when i Feel like yeah this is someone whom I can trust and show my real feelings they turn into something else.
I am legit confused if I am assuming things or If i am right
Btw Thank you so much for your kind words. It gave me a sense of relief ❤️
@Inuu06
Aw I feel that. It's sad when you feel that sharing about your feelings could turn things even bad than they already are, a sense of fear like this is valid based on your previous experience with them, and certainly makes sense why you'd feel hesitant this time. :/
What assumption is making you feel confused?
I'm glad this could provide some relief. ❤
Coz whenever I try to open up , I tend to tell something else they understand something else and This creates a huge misunderstanding and then I just go blank and unable to speak up my mind i start crying . And this thing my friend it makes me so low that after that situation i don't go out for days .
It's so difficult buddy .
But having your sweet words is making me a little good🫶🏻
@Inuu06
Hey, just came across this tag.
I hear you, often there can be misunderstandings when we try to talk to people, it makes things worse when we try to say one thing and they understand something else, it makes sense how this further makes you feel isolated from them and harder to connect.
That's where healthy open communication comes though, where we ask questions or clarify when things are unclear, no one is a mind reader or has the exact same level of experiences and thought-process as us, sometimes people only understand from where they are standing, and it could be far from us, other times they'd be assuming more than actually listening and trying to understand what we tried conveying. Times like these I'd say for your friends, it is good to ask questions to clarify, or seek more clarity if something's unclear or doubtful, something like a "Oh I didn't really caught that part, would you mind explaining again please?" Works much better than assumptions or misunderstood context, I feel.
I get how emotionally draining it can be when we keep trying from our side to connect but the other people simply don't comply enough. :(
Really glad these messages have provided you some comfort and validation. You're more than welcome anytime. ❤
How have you been doing lately?