Tips for couples on Appreciating each other :)
Recently I read that good couple would appreciate each other, saying thanks to the partner at least three times a day. I actually did it out of habit, but after reading this it makes me realize that I didn’t being thanked much by my partner.
So I tell him about what I read and I said that I want to apply it. He said it’s unnecessary because it feels weird to be thanked too often. So I told him that I hope he can do it to me because I want to be thanked too. I want to know what I did right in the relationship, I want to know I’m being appreciated
At first he was reluctant because he said he’s not good at saying thanks to those who are close to him.. it feels formal he said. But I like him to try, so he did. The first time he did it makes me cry because it’s nice to feel appreciated by someone we love.. Even to be thanked by stranger felt good, so when our love one doing it it feels very warm :)
Now he said thank you daily for things that I did and it makes me feel extra loved in the relationship. I hope this tips would be useful for couples that reading this.
Thank you :)
@Linognathus Make him do a quiz of love languages and emphasize which ways of love you want more.
He did the quiz before, and his love language is physical affection and act of service. Mine is words and quality time. But we’re in LDR, he’s two hours away with busy schedule and he’s not big with words so my needs are quite hard for him to fulfil. And I can’t do much for him from distance.
For my part, usually I will ask for what I want because sometimes he just doesn’t know what I needed to make me feel loved. And he will comply with the request lol.
It isn’t the most romantic things to do but asking for what we want is really important in relationship compared to unspoken expectations.
@Linognathus okay, just ask him to support you on that perspective