Online Dating Advice/Anxiety Inducing/ Venting
I've been out of the dating game for a while now. At my insistence of "focusing on myself" is really just an easier way of saying dating is probably one of the most anxiety inducing things. I've had maybe a handful of relationships and one long term one. And I have friends I really value and people in my life who offer emotional nourishment. But now it's a matter of all my friends are in relationships, as are others in my life and it just feels so lonely. And really the only platform these days is online dating. I'll be honest when I say I've been too afraid of online dating. The thought of trying to sell yourself and advertise yourself as the best candidate just terrifies me. Or like the risk of running into someone who might know me irl. I dont necessarily think I'm the greatest looking either so there's another reason why online dating fills me with such awful anxiety. And the pictures for the profile are kind of.. uh necessary. Of course I don't think a relationship will be an end all be all to my anxiety and depression, but it's just been at a point where I'm feeling pretty lonely and I miss that feeling of being in a relationship again I dont know the purpose of the thread.. maybe it's me venting??
@NyxArcane1226 Online dating is definitely weird but not always that bad in my opinion lol. To each their own though. I think it's best to go into it just expecting to meet some new people and explore restaurants/activities in your area. You could be upfront that you want a relationship but are super new to online dating. It is good to pick a picture of you that makes you feel good, maybe just smiling and doing something you like or outside in a scenic place. It's not necessarily "selling yourself" but can just show your interests/hobbies, like if you like music you can put that to connect with others who like music. Good luck! :)
Hey Daydreamer thanks so much for the very solid advice. I know I overthink quite literally everything. I do believe a lot of my reservations with it is stem from so many of my own insecurities and like this conditioned self hatred I have for myself. I think you're right in the fact that all I can do is try. It's just the actual implementation of it. It sounds so easy, and probably is. I guess I'm also in a place too where I cant really afford to go out on dates because of moving into a new apartment. It honestly sounds like in trying to find excuses now. Again, I overthink everything -_-;
