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Needs not being met
aquaChestnut3262 October 2nd, 2022
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Me and my boyfriend are in a long distance relationship. I’m into corporate life and he is an army officer!


we never talk about sex or physical intimacy on calls.. when we meet after 2 months or so we will just make love once or twice which is really passionate and we both enjoy !


but im not having an orgasm or i am not feeling the best when we do things! When he is done he just stops and move on ! This has been happening for a long time now


this is really affecting me bcoz he is really happy and I’m not ! My needs are not being met and i think about then other relationships where i was feeling happier! And then it makes me guilty


he is a highly egoistic person so i don’t know how to tell this to him ! He might take it in a different sense


please advise what to do



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toughTiger6481 October 2nd, 2022
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@aquaChestnut3262

I can tell you there is not a good way i have found to communicate that.....

i have had the same issue with spouse ......i lost a good amount of weight and things do not line up the same way his old tried methods simply work for HIM ONLY ......... i thought we could talk and be honest

i told him certain positions and moves simply do NOTHING for me ........ he takes it too personally and now blames me because he says he has performance anxiety..


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