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My partner is very jealous
pluckyKiwi5892 July 31st, 2021
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Hey there! I have this big problem in my relationship. My partner is very very jealous. They have trust issues and I understand that completely and I try to help them as much as I can, but lately it started to happen very often, we fight almost daily. Today they started a fight because i came to see them on a different road than usual. Few days ago I was to a party with some friends and someone flirted to me. When I told them, they said they are 100% sure I haven't told that person i am in a relationship. And no matter how much I insisted I said I am in a relationship, they didn't believe me. I started to get tired and now I feel like i am not trustworthy. I really want to help them, I don't want the relationship to end, but I am not that happy anymore... I try to talk about this every time something happens, but I feel like they don't want to solve this, they just believe that's how they are and nothing can change. The this is, it only started to happen lately. I think it can be fixed, but I just don't know what I can do. It's very hard to prove you are innocent and people can very easily find "proofs" you are guilty. And the fact that I have to prove my every action makes me feel I have no intimacy. Were you in their position? What would you have liked your partner to do? Thank you

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cheerfulIceCream August 26th, 2021
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Hello there Kiwi! Thanks for writing this post.😊💜

From what you wrote, I learn that your partner seems very jealous and has trust issues; he believes nothing can be changed about it. It's sure hard to keep comforting your partner in these scenarios, I get you. Having fights daily with your partner would he very difficult. I understand how hard this has been for you. ):
So he got tensed because you took a different route to see him and that you told him someone flirted with you in a party you were in with your friends. I'm sorry that he didn't believe that you let the person know you were in a relationship prior to the incident. That must be so upsetting and I can see why. It sounds like this is really causing you distress. I'd feel similarly in that situation. I understand that you want to help him and I appreciate that about you. (:

If you want any suggstions, taking couples therapy might be of help, in shaa Allah. (It's absolutely your choice!) I can see that the understanding and trust between you two has been very damaged so yeah. Having insights from a professional 3rd person could likely help him understand better.
(If you do end up deciding to go for it, you can visit www.betterhelp.com/aileen for 10% off your first month. 😁😁Therapy in there is cheaper than traditional therapy!)

Sending you love and best wishes. 😊💜


To anyone reviewing the post, no, I'm not Aileen.🥲
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