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indigoEast2917 March 28th, 2023

First time here, so please be kind. so my issue is quite specific. I’ve been messed around on relationships a lot in the past, but have finally met this great guy. He’s smart, funny, respectful and just great in almost every way. He says I’m the only one he wants and that I’m ‘perfect’. And yet, I can’t seem to shake this feeling that I’m not what he desires and really wants.. This could be influenced a little by his past, he told me when he was drunk that he’s slept with 200+ women (many whilst travelling in Thailand) some of whom he said were crazy hot… he seems to revert back to talking about past encounters when he drinks, never asked for, and sometimes not in a big way, but might say something stupid he thinks I will find funny (I guess) about stupid ways he used to pull women.. now this alone I think probably wouldn’t bother me much. We have been together 6 months, and sex with me has just never been high on his agenda - doesn’t often initiate it, often doesn’t seem that interested. Yet is overall a very affectionate and attentive person. (If it helps for context I am 33, he is 39. I wouldn’t say I’m insecure per se, as am in good shape and do get interest generally, I just get this feeling maybe I’m not what he wants… thank you for reading

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Skansly April 3rd, 2023

@indigoEast2917

isnt the most basic question was whether he feels good with you or not. and is it not possible that he is making up that stories , with the right sources , stories could be build up and if stories keep your relation interesting it shouldnt be a problem . you actually should be happy that he has such a record , do you know someone with such a record , if he has already reached 200+ score , he must have already tried everything , until he has a high drive to continue it is a little difficult for him. its totally possible that out of that 200+ people , you are the first one that cared for him just remember the first time you met him . what was he attracted by?

HopeTary April 19th, 2023

@indigoEast2917 Helo hi , from reading your issue i understand that this guy you like has been speaking about his past in way that bothers you,,,

jadenrjc7 April 19th, 2023

@indigoEast2917 I definitely understand your feeling. Sometimes we get into our own heads so much to the point where we use bits of information that may seem suspicious as "evidence" of someone doing us wrong. It's a very hard feeling to shake. Talking back to those thoughts and being open with your partner will allow for validation and communication. I hope things get better and if not, you find someone you don't feel this way with!