Letter Writing Exercise- Improve Communication in Relationships

Letter Writing Exercise: Communication in Relationships

Here is an exercise to help with communication in relationships (romantic/family/friendship).

If a person is upsetting you and you are stuck onhow to communicate all of your complicated feelings,then write a letter to person who is upsetting you. You don't have to send it. Just be honest and don't hold back.

In your letter try to write statements like:

I feel_____ (a single feeling word)when you ______(do something/an action) because_________(why you feel that way)so maybe in the future what could help the situation improve is if we______________ (give suggestions for improved communication).

Writing this letter in a journal or typing it in a document will get everything out that you are feeling without you having to figure out what to say to this particular person. Just let it flow.

Note: If you do decide to send the laterat a later point- Look it over first to make sure you are being respectful and expressing how you feel. Take out any unnecessary sentences which were in therejust in the heat of the moment.Delete curse words.

And remember, you have to be prepared that the person may not respond the way you want them to, or they may not respond at all. But if you feel the need to "make amends" or tell them something important, sometimes a letter is the best way.

Otherwise a face-to-face meeting for coffee can also work if you want to sort some things out, make amends, apologize, etc...

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