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Healthy Communication Tips

redYard5846 January 12th, 2022

My boyfriend and I have been fighting almost everyday for the past two months. I think our healthy communication is gone because whenever I try to discuss the problem, he doesn’t want to. He just wants to apologize and move forward. Like he really doesn’t want to spend a lot of time talking about the problems. He gets irritated if I try to discuss it, which then leads up to another fight and we get defensive.


So these past few days, I’ve been troubled wanting to apologize and explain my side to him. But I already know it won’t end well. So I just avoid bringing it up and distract myself from negativity. But in all honesty, I really want us to have healthy communication again. I wish whenever I bring up something bothering me, he could comfort me instead of getting defensive or avoidant of a problem.

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halcyonCloud2036 January 12th, 2022

@redYard5846

I hear you! Communication in relationships can be so challenging. I read an interesting book that really helped me navigate communication with bf and I actually posted a little summary of it here recently.

https://www.7cups.com/forum/RelationshipFriendshipSupport_66/DatingIssuesTips_2167/5LanguagesofLove_268423/

It sounds so simplistic at first, but honestly, it really helped me understand how to communicate better with bf. It might be worth giving it a try and even discussing it with him to let him know you really want to work on improving communication together!

Also, I had a great listener here who really helped me through a difficult relationship @KindnessMatters2020. Definitely message her, she had some great perspectives.

All the best to you ❤️