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General guidelines for moving on unfullfilled/unrequited/toxic love

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Friends12 October 12th

Moving on from a significant relationship can be deeply challenging, but taking proactive steps toward healing and self-care can significantly ease the process. Here are some general guidelines that can help anyone struggling to move forward:

1. Establish a Routine

Importance: Provides structure and a sense of normalcy.

How to Implement: Schedule regular activities like waking up, meals, exercise, and bedtime at the same times each day.

2. Therapy

Importance: Offers professional support, insights, and strategies to cope with emotions.

How to Implement: Seek a therapist who specializes in relationship issues or emotional distress. Online therapy options can also be accessible and flexible.


3. Journaling

Importance: Helps process emotions and clarify thoughts.

How to Implement: Write daily about your feelings, progress, setbacks, and anything that gives you hope or causes pain.


4. Exercise

Importance: Boosts mood through the release of endorphins and helps manage stress.

How to Implement: Incorporate activities you enjoy, such as walking, yoga, cycling, or group sports, into your daily routine.

5. Meditation and Mindfullness


Importance: Enhances emotional regulation and promotes a sense of calm.

How to Implement: Start with guided meditation apps like Headspace or Calm. Practice mindfulness during regular activities like eating or walking.


6. Social Support


Importance: Provides emotional comfort and distraction from ruminative thoughts.

How to Implement: Reach out to friends and family, join support groups, or engage in community activities.


7. Limit Contact with Your Ex


Importance: Reduces emotional turmoil and helps you start new chapters.

How to Implement: Avoid checking their social media, texts, and mutual places you visited together.


8. Hobbies and New Interests


Importance: Distracts from negative thoughts and can lead to new friendships and skills.

How to Implement: Revisit old hobbies or explore new interests like painting, cooking, or learning a musical instrument.


9. Volunteering


Importance: Shifts focus from your own situation to helping others, enhancing feelings of self-worth.

How to Implement: Find local organizations where you can contribute your time and skills.


10. Setting Goals


Importance: Gives direction and a sense of purpose.

How to Implement: Set realistic and achievable goals, both short-term (like trying a new recipe) and long-term (like career advancement).


11. Avoid Unhealthy Coping Mechanisms


Importance: Prevents forming habits that may delay your healing process.

How to Implement: Be mindful of tendencies towards excessive alcohol, overeating, or other escapist behaviors.


12. Spiritual Practices


Importance: Provides comfort, community, and a broader perspective on life’s challenges.

How to Implement: Engage in spiritual or religious practices meaningful to you, or explore meditation and nature walks.


These strategies, when combined, can help build resilience, provide new perspectives, and foster a healthier emotional state. It’s important to remember that moving on is a process, and being patient and gentle with yourself is crucial during this time.

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User Profile: Friends12
Friends12 OP October 12th

@Friends12

I m sorry for the spelling mistake on the title itself
General*
toxic*

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User Profile: Friends12
Friends12 OP October 12th

@Friends12

unfulfilled*

Hiya @Friends12 fixed the title and also deleted the same post that you may have mistakenly posted twice, to avoid duplicate content in the forums! 

Thank you for sharing these wonderful tips!

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User Profile: Friends12
Friends12 OP October 12th

@Sunisshiningandsoareyou

thank you, if i make mistake on posts in future, is that that simple just to report and all your mistakes are fixed. i want this edit option for life too🥹😂

not intending to do intentional mistakes  but still

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@Friends12

Haha I'd love that option for real life too lol, but guess we have the "Reflect on your mistake, Learn from it and Try to do better next time" option available, which isn't too bad either, I guess.😄

Ooh and about here, yes, always helpful to proof-read our posts for any typos and errors, but sometimes it's inevitable and of course, super okay to request a forum leader (or someone with editing/ moderation ability) to make changes, where needed. 💛

Read here- https://www.7cups.com/forum/7cupsleadership/CommunitiesInformation_2314/NeedtocontactaforumleaderFindouthowhere_315542/ to learn more about contacting a forum leader.

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