Do you believe that in a MARRIAGE or MONOGAMOUS RELATIONSHIP, you should love and accept every part of their self? The sad side, the annoyed side, the
Yes. Of course, that doesnt mean you have to be okay with any abuse or other behaviors that you dont think are okay/in line with your moral standards.
Example: my husband has a really bad mouth – thats how he was raised and thats part of the culture he was raised in. He thought it was all fine and dandy, but when I came along I didnt expect to hear those words on a regular basis, and I asked him to stop using them. Hes been trying really hard, but sometimes he just slips up. It drives me crazy, but I accept that its a part of him that I dont agree with and hes been trying his best...
Example: my husband is a very neat and tidy guy, and even though I like organization I was brought up in a very chaotic environment. I struggle with keeping the home organized and with my mental health issues, its even more of a struggle. My husband has come to terms that Im trying my best and has accepted that this is something that will take me a while to get in order.
These are just two simple examples, but this is what marriage/serious relationships are about: accepting the other person as they are and finding compromises and middle ground.
I think that you have to love the person as a whole, and really understand they whishes and motivations. If that's ok, then the love can grow. The Bible says "Love never fails" and sometimes a person could fall. Sometimes someone can be very angry, or sad or anxious or weird, but if you love the person you will love them will all your heart and your soul. Everyone has flaws, sometimes in the weirdest places, but you will be there matter what. Sometimes is a good day, sometimes is a bad day, but every day is beautifully with the person you love. I personally don't like the angry side of my partner, its very intense and sometimes he isolate himself to not tell at me because of the anger. Also his depressive side, sometimes is very intense and exhausting but I will never let him alone because of that. I've never let my own discomfort abandon him in a depressive situation, because I know it will be solved and we will be happy again in no time. Love never fails.
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That's very beautiful of you to say❤ I wish nothing but the absolute BEST for both you! I'm hopeful that one day my mental illnesses can be a part of my partnership with my husband.
@Confounded1 Thank you <3 I hope the best for you and your future husband. One advice that I can give is let them know exactly how you feel, and if you don't know because sometimes that happens, let them know that too. Give them the information but also the tools to help, to battle with it. I have anxiety and sometimes I told him that I want to run, but stay, and he starts to asking me why, why this, why that and at the end we reach to the point. Sometimes I'm lost in my mind but he helps to find a way out asking questions. But he is totally different. He feels choked with so many questions, so when he is angry or stressed I just tell him that I'm here, and start telling him about something, avoiding questions. It's all time to know each other and the tools to combat each other mental illnesses. Wish you. The best!
True love will always find away, it might be a tough ride but well worth it.
Of course! If you cant handle the bad and ugly then you probably cant handle the best.
My husband bless his heart.. see my car accident. Almost buried me as his fiance ends up marrying me that night! If he couldn't handle that then he wouldn't be able to handle my good. My husband has seen the ugly side of me. He has been there for it. Throu the reckless decisions I have made. He has been there. He has seen how my mom treats me and yet he stood there for me.
I am a big believer in Jesus. No a Christian by any means. One day I lost it emotionally. My mom said some hurtful things like always. I stayed a bit behind him at the store. Outside of the store he went to get the car and I cried and prayed. And for the first time for him he couldn't stay in the car. He got out and prayed with me.
I wouldn't have married him if he couldn't have handled it all. Now I'm working on handling his horrible family. It ain't easy but he is there just like I was there.
I'd say that you should accept your partner fully, flaws and all, but you are definitely not going to like all of their traits all of the time.