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tired of feeling used

User Profile: optimisticPeace71
optimisticPeace71 September 1st, 2016

I was dating someone since April and things have been going well. Recently i asked if they wanted to make things official, they said yes then the next week they had family emergency, didn't tell me about it ghosted on me for like 5 days and when i brought it up to them (me being worried/ignored) they tried to flip it on me and make it seem like i was being secretive about my emotions

and then proceeded to tell me how they weren't in love with me, how they miss me as a friend, and how they don't want a relationship

i wish ppl were more honest with me

i was very transparent about my feelings the entire time, i feel like folks are dishonest to themselves sometimes. it just makes me mad to think about it because when we had this conversation they seemed so detached and arrogant. It pissed me off. Why are people like this?

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User Profile: cloudTraveler
cloudTraveler September 1st, 2016

Hello, @optimisticPeace71

I'm sorry to hear you've been dealing with such an emotionally challenging situation, I know how tough to digest disappointments coming from people you trusted and were honest with can get. After all people do have different expectations and intentions but being entirely honest about them doesn't seem to do any harm, yet so many people prefer to go the "elusive" way probably out of comfort or unconsciousness. I just like to think that the people who treat us like this were never really meant for us and disappointment are just another part of our life experience and can help us grow and become more aware of what's good for us.

Take care and don't lose hope, the right one won't use you like this! :)

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User Profile: optimisticPeace71
optimisticPeace71 OP February 6th, 2017

Thank you for your response. @cloudTraveler I learned a lot from that situation and am glad that i'm out of it.

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