The End of the Non-Existant Relationship
I just broke up with my sort of boyfriend. We have never met.We were planning on meeting this summer. So, he is Turkish, I am Finnish. He lives in Istanbul and has a lot of money, I live in Finland and have practically none. I say this because this is not a case of him courting me to get out of Turkey, he could do that just fine on his own. Anyway. I really liked him, he was very fun and sweet.
The thing is that his mother has been in the hospital and as the Turks apparently spend all of there spare time with the sick relative he has barely contacted me for almost a month. Now he has not said a word for a week and I have tried to be understanding. Then I was scrolling through my feed on facebook, a service which he apparently barely uses, and cannot use properly because he does not understand I can see everything he likes. Four days ago he added another woman as a friend, a pretty woman. This set me off. He says he really cares about me and everything but has no time to send me a hello, but has the time to check facebook and accept or make a friend request.
I just cannot trust someone so far I have never met and who will not communicate with me. This hurts and I am 32 years old I should not be feeling this way. I feel ashamed of myself. I feel terrible in all ways.
He does not know what ever we have has ended because he has probably not been online to read my message. I know what he will say when he reads it. He will say: "If that is what you want." No that is not what I f*cking want. I just want to stop feeling anxious and like an obsessed stalker and not getting any relief for missing him and always wondering if what he says is true. Does he really like me? Does he have someone else? Is he still looking?
I have no right to even feel this way. I am a grown woman, not some teen. I also am NOT in a relationship with him. Still it does not change the fact that I am hurt, anxious, sad, angry and heart broken.