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I feel heartbroken??

ArgentCats July 20th, 2015

It's probably because I am heartbroken over a guy. Anyone want to talk?? I could use it.

I'm 17, he has to be in his late 20s.

I never felt this way about anyone before.. I've had crushes before him, but I think I fell in love with him. He worked at my high school, but he signed on for a different job so I won't see him again. He also went back to his home country (don't know if he's actually going to come back) which is far from where I am. I think he also has a girlfriend. That apparently doesn't bother me, but I still feel so strongly for him. I honestly never met anyone like him, which sounds cliché​. But I'm serious he was beautiful. He could be a jerk sometimes like anyone else, but he was also so kind to me... It hurts, because I don't think I'll find someone like that again. I don't think I'll ever really move on from this guy either. I honestly pray I'll see him again because that was how much he ended up meaning to me.

I didn't say anything because I didn't realize that I fell in love until he was gone. I knew I had feelings just not these kinds, you know?? ughhh I don't know what to do. Because I'll feel perfectly fine, then he'll pop into my mind, or I'll see something that reminds me of him, and then I'll feel absolutely​ terrible, and like crying..... I regret not saying something... I'd rather be turned down than feel this way.

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DestroyMeta July 20th, 2015

Hi, I'm not really prone to giving advice, cuz rather, it's usually not taken or considered. So rather, I'd give you suggestions - so you remember, whatever I say doesn't matter. However, I should start. I believe at your age, rather close to mine as well. Live your life. Do what you want to do. Don't give a care in the world for this guy. If destiny sees fit, the universe, God, whatever you believe in - you'll find happiness in the pursuit of what you want. I really don't think it's a good idea to waste your life on someone else, when you haven't wasted it on yourself yet. But you know. Do what you do. After all, I'm just a stranger.

SparkLee54 July 21st, 2015

I agree with DestroyMeta. Things seem to be really difficult right now. I was in a similar situation not too long ago myself. I wasn't sure I'd fall in love again and I wasn't sure if I would ever be as comfortable being myself around anyone like I was with him. But DestoryMeta has some good advice that definitely ended up helping me. Live life, try finding things you like to do or want to do and go for it, try setting goals, try new hobbies, and try focusing on taking care of yourself and try to focus on your friendships. I tried those things, and at first, it wasn't super easy but it got better. I still think about him here and there and it still kind of stings but the pain has definitely dulled. And I've found new hobbies I like and more people to share my interests with. Personally for me, the best thing I did on my path to move on was just to enjoy life and focus on myself and my other relationships. :)