I can't take anymore or should i just keep trying??.

My husband and I have recently reconciled for the second time after separation but feel like nothing's changed it's to the point where I didn't want to go home because I'm so miserable as soon as I walk in the house. The only good part about going home is the kids are there. And he does financially support a family of 9. We'll make that 8 so they don't fully think he supports me with all that a husband should. He stop making the car payments almost a year ago with no concerns of the legal possibilities that could fall in my lap. But the main issue at hand is the house is an absolute disaster. My anxiety kicks in as soon as I walk in the door. My husband is a complete Pig. I don't know if he expects me to come in and clean up the mess after being gone for a year. But that is the whole reason I had a nervous breakdown in 2017 I was trying to carry the load of 9 people. He coaches Monday Tuesday Thursday and is home no earlier than 10:00. He has church on Wednesday, from 5:30 till about 8:30. Not to mention he also coaches or has games Saturday which he's gone first thing and gets home anywhere between 12 and 3 in the afternoon Sunday morning he's a bright and early for church home by 1 back to church at 6. And when he gets off work he will come in lay down until it's time to leave again.. he does absolutely nothing around the house to help. In fact at times it seems he purposely avoids or ignores my request to help around the house. kids see him do nothing and they're just as lazy. It's so overwhelming I just want to cry or sleep. I feel another nervous breakdown coming very soon if something doesn't get done very soon. How do I explain this to him without sounding dramatic? How do I get him to step up or tell him I I want out?