Ex anxiety
Spoke to my ex after a few years. Still a narcissistic gaslighting liar. I am feeling a lot of different things. Immensely relieved and grateful that I can see the truth of the behavior and that it's not my fault. Triggered and defensive of my hard earned peace. I really am appreciative of the Perspective I have gained and that I didn't not fall in the trap being laid to drag me back into a toxic situation. I'm realizing that as bad as the relationship was, it was worth it because of the growth I've experienced since. Sad they haven't grown and are still pretending to be victim of circumstance and not taking any accountability. Ugh.
@orangeTriangle4803
Hello. I think it’s wonderful that you’re able to look back at your past relationship with a new perspective. I’m glad that you are able to see growth and that you are better off now. There’s definitely some closure in that.
Take care!
My situation, very similar to yours, just started. Any advice on how to get through the Rollercoaster of emotions? I'm relieved it's over-he left me, but I'm also lonely, sad, and grieving what I thought could have been. Of course, in true narcissistic fashion, mine is already seeing someone new and she's "so much better" and he's "finally happy after being so miserable for so long". I've been reading up on trauma bonds, but I'd love some real life perspective if you're willing!
@orangeTriangle48
I am really proud of you! It is really positive that you recognize the truth about this relation and set appropriate boundaries to protect yourself from a toxic person and toxic relationship. Keep moving forward and continue on your growth path.In the meantime, I am here for you. Sometimes doing an activity that you love helps. So can joining a group activity, because it allows you to make friends.Good luck and remember I am available to listen if you need me.