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Lillypad25 April 27th, 2020

Hi to whoever may be reading this!


My ex broke up with me around 6 weeks ago now. We were having a few arguments (nothing major) and my anxiety was really bad towards the end. He said he was unhappy and that he didn't feel the same way towards me as he did before. (Meaning he didn't love me) I moved all of my things from his house. And I begged and pleaded with him for around 4 weeks on and off. I know now that was a massive mistake.

I love this man will all of my heart. I'm so upset, I feel so low. I cry everyday, I dream about him most nights. I feel like I've lost the best thing that's ever happened to me. We got on so well, and we're making plans for the future.

I'm now on 2 weeks with no contact. He seems to be moving on, on dating apps.
I literally just don't know what to do now. I want him back more than anything! Can anyone help or give me some words of advice.
I literally feel so broken at the moment.
x

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ThisTooShallPass2016 April 27th, 2020

@Lillypad25

Welcome to 7 Cups.

I'm sorry that you are going through this. Loss of any kind can be difficult and I understand how this can be devasting (especially now) and pray that each passing day your heart mends a little more.

I understand because I experienced something similar and was given these words of advice:

"If you love something, set it free and if it is really yours it will come back to you".

Those words were painful to hear at the time, VERY painful. However, 30 years, YES 30 years later, that person resurfaced realizing they'd made a mistake. However it was too late because God blessed me with a wonderful life partner one year after that person first left. In hindsight, I now see that in order to receive the love that I deserved I had to let go of the love that didn't deserve me.