In celebration of 'Friendship Week' the amazing @Nina007 and @15Sydney hosted an amazing discussion on ✴Friendship✴

Objectives

✔ To analyze the ins and outs of a friendship to highlight what's important when trying to maintain one

✔Learn more about each other's views on friendship and how we can use those other views to improve our own support systems

✨Questions✨

⭐ Whats the sweetest song about friendship that you can think of? ⭐

With a little help of my friends, The Beatles -@MelAllyouneedislove

Kris Allen has a song called Better With You -@15Sydney

Queen - You're my best friend. -@Asunder

How about Bruno Mars' You can count on me? -@Nina007

⭐ What are some of the activities you enjoy doing with your friends? ⭐

Pranking humans -@izza

talking, shopping, eating, joking, playing jokes on people -@Silentlistener97

video games , pranks , thats about it .-. -@Ace13

singing on the bus, joking xD stalking people xDD we're pretty good at stalking xDDD -@Raylen

Video games, gossiping, sharing music . Going swimming -@TheLastOfUs

I only really hang out with people at school or something like that -@Liz1000

we do make jokes all the time... we have games and we troll people on the road -@IreKat

⭐ What are some things that you can say/do with/to your friends that you wouldnt normally say/do with/to others? ⭐

They won't wrong me because i know how to destroy them -@pray4theheartless

And Syd, I would say, I totally fangirl with my friends, things I do not do with others. I feel like I can be more honest and we just laugh and joke a lot -@MelAllyouneedislove

Hmm Talk about my problems/things that bother me XD -@brightLight357

I sleep most of the time on my bestfried shoulder or lap, it doesn't matter where or when even in classes xD she's like my pillow, we also sing and dance and role play xD -@Raylen

I think annoying them is the best >.> -@Ace13

My friends know about all those silly embarrassing things I like that I would't admit to others -@MelAllyouneedislove

Because they won't think you're rude 😂 -@izza

⭐ If you were going through a rough time, how would you want your friends to support you? ⭐

With beanbags and cookies -@izza

By being understanding ? .-. -@Ace13

Jus talk it out then be silly -@Aishaaa_

I just don't have any really good friends who I'd feel comfortable going to for support -@RebeccaEmily

And Nina, I would love my friends to support me listening and what we usually do is have sleepovers every time we need them -@MelAllyouneedislove

⭐ Does distance matter when it comes to keeping a friendship alive? Why? ⭐

I dont think it does becausewe have internet now -@Ace13

Hmm I think it does when I'm feeling down tbh -@izza

No distance doesn't matter, if you really love someone you'll always keep them no matter what -@Raylen

No, distance is irrelevant. Friendship, quite simple put, is "a state of mutual trust and support". That simply means being able to achieve those things comfortably. If you do so, you establish a friendship which grows. This is not constrained by distance or time. -@Baubs

⭐ How do you think the number of friends and the behaviour of those friends can affect your lifestyle? ⭐

They can influence you and if you have too many friends they can take too much time and make you do less of other things -@Ace13

Quality over quantity. A good quality friendship will have good behavior which is lighthearted and mutual. Both parties will be satisfied with it and that's how it'll grow. Having too many friendships can break this bond and can lead to isolation, or feeling isolated, as there's no close connection - just day-to-day encounters and regular, almost script like conversations. -@Baubs

I think friendships can change people, I think my friend got out of high school a tiny bit more rebel than she went in she even got punished like two times or something -@Liz1000

How t hey behave shapes you as a person (in most situations). Humans are a social species and we require social interactions with others and need to feel connected to at least a few people. If they behave nicely and caring and understanding of you as a person, you grow comfortable in yourself. If they behave horribly - it can alter yourself and your self-esteem. -@Baubs

⭐ How do you differentiate true friends from others? ⭐

Real friends don't hang out with you on their free time, they free their time to hang out with you -@Nina007

real friends buy you chipotle -@pray4theheartless

A true friend is willing to look after you, and not look after you. Whatever you happen to be feeling at the moment is fine with them. That's what real love amounts to - letting a person be what s/he really is. A friend will care about your perspectives enough to help you, care for you and be brave enough to say if you're wrong. -@Baubs

good friend knows the song of your heart, a true friend can play it whenever you forget the lyrics -@Raylen

They can't just be good-weathered friends, they have to be there through the bad weather if you want them to be, also -@15Sydney

⭐ Why is being explicitly honest important when it comes to friendships? ⭐

Because you can't be a real friend if they don't know the real you -@MelAllyouneedislove

Because you don't really know the person if you're not extraordinary honest -@izza

If your not being honest, your not bring yourself, you are making someone be friends with a false portrait off yourself, you can't expect someone to love you and care for you if they can't see the real you -@TheLastOfUs

"stated clearly and in detail, leaving no room for confusion or doubt."Sometimes, honesty shouldn't be explicit. Sometimes things just should not be said, as they say "let by-gone's be by-gone's). However honesty can boost a friendship too as it increases and g rows the bond you have, which in turn makes you more comfortable together. -@Baubs

⭐ What are some things you shouldn't do to your own friends that you think they would consider hurtful? ⭐

sometimes syd we have to hide our pain away from our friends because they're already hurt and you don't want to hurt them more -@Raylen

Don't tease them about things that they are sensitive about. -@RebeccaEmily

Nina, to sum up this is what I'm saying essentially: The truth is a good thing, and honesty in a relationship is generally a positive aspiration. I am merely trying to point out that revealing too much, too soon can have dire consequences in a relationship, and that honesty, when taken to an extreme, is likely to be more destructive than constructive. -@Baubs

anything phissical, punching or anything. All our friends are different so we know what we can and can't do, we have to think about how that are feeling and of its right to say that thing. Like on here, we should avode personal triggers. A pit fall with friendships is making them feel guilt , it's a horrible emotion, last thing is you should never leave them , you should always support them , like you would like -@TheLastOfUs

Just hurt them, physically or emotionally, whether it is directly or through somebody else -@Liz1000

⭐ If you wanted to be someone elses friend, how would you go about it? ⭐

I would probably buy them chipotle, as Erica said before -@15Sydney

I wouldn't "go about it". I would just continue to be myself, a friendship I have to chase after isn't a friendship I'd be interested in. Those who will become true friends (as earlier defined), will co-exist and meet via their own hobbies, skills and activities as well as by being similar to one another. -@Baubs

Say hi and start talking to them .-. -@Ace13

I'd go about it by being me. If we are meant to become friends, it will happen naturally, not by changing my behaviour or anything. -@RebeccaEmily

Talk to them 💜 just talk to them how you would normally, like I said earlier don't start of by lieing as then , they are becoming freinds with your portrait not you. If you start to express more emotion than you normally would, that may be something bad, they might , later in the freimdship expect that. Be freindly to them of course , but don't push them into a relationship they don't want , you are you , you can't change that -@TheLastOfUs

⭐ How do you think friends are made? [What causes us to become friends with each other?] ⭐

Friends are made when they understand my banter -@izza

Hey everyone Friends are made with fairy dust and magic, everyone knows that -@Lyra

friends are made through spending time with each other, getting to know one another, also chipotle and hugs -@pray4theheartless

A wizard says "bibidi bobidy boo" and it happens. -@RebeccaEmily

Maintaining that connection with a friend is definitely important. Understanding one another is a key component. -@15Sydney

⭐ Because we here at 7CupsOfTea are all part of a big family of friends, what are some ways to benefit each other and improve our little community? ⭐

I like randomly PMing people to tell them mushy things, it's quite sickening really -@Lyra

Randomly PMing people jokes -@izza

throwing cute potatoes and skittle in the air ^-^ -@Raylen

Engage with everyone in the chat room and not just people we know -@Aishaaa_

Shoutouts, badge nominations, recognizing milestones, etc -@RebeccaEmily

Quotes that only make sense in context

Nina the Mattress -@15Sydney

think being honest actually brings you closer , like the beanbags are magic -@izza

how to steal a fiend, buy them food -@ThoughtfulLemon527

I would walk up to them and call them the good kinda bread -@izza

Thanks to everyone who participated! Including: @Ace13 @mangodream @TheLastOfUs @MelAllyouneedislove @Aishaaa_ @15Sydney @Asunder @pray4theheartless @Nina007 @izza @Silentlistener97 @Raylen @Baubs @Liz1000 @IreKat @brightLight357 @RebeccaEmily @ThoughtfulLemon527 @Lyra