self esteem
Hi,
I am facing an issue,
if i am doing something, i know i am doing it.
but i am always scared that if i show potential aur try to actively participate pthers will feel threaten and try to dominate. It has happened to me in past and happens even now if even by mistale i answer something unknowingly, my team mates go against me and talk wrong stuff behind my back and try to pull me down.
so, i try to undersell myself always and try to underperform, i hold back myself.
What should i do, i have started feeling as dumb and loosing confidence
@amicablePlane9746 Hi, being good at something isn't a bad thing at all, as long as you're not acting like you're better than others, which I don't think you're doing. Your teammates are jealous and don't know what they're talking about. I don't know your situation or anything, but if there's a way to talk to them about your feelings, that would be good. If you feel like they won't listen, then is there any way to distance yourself from them? You deserve the chance to be the best you can be without being worried about other's opinions of you, and whatever you decide to do, know that you're amazing and talented and sweet, and nobody can take that away from you <33
@amicablePlane9746
Hello and Welcome to the 7 Cups.
You are welcome here and we appreciate you! It takes great strength in sharing.
So I understand correctly, you hold yourself and underperform because you don’t want your peers and teammates to talk poorly of you behind your back.
That is disheartening. You are valid and we acknowledge your pain. I would feel the same.
It is ok to good at something. Do you enjoy performing at or above, like challenging yourself?
What do you think would happen if you were your normal self?
