pregnant at 14

I had my first son when I was 15. My best advice is to advocate for yourself:

1. write out your birth plan. What you want and what you don't want. Make 4 copies and make sure to keep one on you, give one to your OB and then the hospital gets one when your admitted. (one extra copy)

2. Doctors and hospitals like to control the labor and delivery process. It is up to you to tell them NO when you don't agree or something doesn't seem right. And it is up to you to tell them clearly what YOU WANT. And then tell them again and again. Age has nothing to do with whether you have the intervention of pain medications. If that is what you want - ask for it. And make sure it is clearly communicated to your OB and the hospital. 

3. If you are getting push back or disrespect regarding  your birth plan you can send a complaint to the CEO of the hospital your doctor works for. The doctor works for you and if you are not feeling seen and heard or respected then His Boss needs to know. 

4. You can also contact the patients rights advocate that is associated with the hospital. 

5. Read the Patients Bill of Rights. 

6. Your local Le Leche League can be a great support. Even if you are not breastfeeding or keeping the baby these ladies are amazing and can offer support. 

The unknown is always a bit scary. My first labor was around 30 hours too. But the transition stage is usually the shortest part and most intense of labor. For me, it took all my strength and focus and also the ability to surrender in the end.

Birthing a life is a phenomenal and courageous endeavor. 

I adore being a mom so much I had 8 kids total; giving birth to each of them. 

Take gentle care of yourself.