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romasgirl March 3rd

I am 4 and 1/2 months pregnant and I live with the guy who got me pregnant, I ran away, and here's the thing I am lesbian and I got drunk and you know the rest of it, and the father knows I am lesbian and I don't know how to tell my mom I'm going to have triplets, I am already struggling enough, but the father has agreed to help me through it all and pay for everything, I am very round, I have no names yet, but I know its going to be 2 girls and a boy, I am only 16 and he is 15, his family supports us and knows.

I am very nervous, the father has agreed to pay all expenses, his family comes with wealth and said they are willing to do anything to support me, my ex girlfriend found out and wants me back and she wants to be the mom too, and fathers family said they will only support us as long as they get to see the triplets


but here's the hard thing, my mom is very verbally abusive and I don't know how to tell her, I have not seen her in 4 monthes, she is very homophobic and she is against teen pregnancy and I'm scared and I dont want to tell her but the fathers family said they will come along so I need advice...


Do I just drive to my moms house and tell her, or do I bring the father family and we discuss it over dinner?

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BelovedMe March 3rd

@romasgirl

Hey ☺️

Firstly, it's essential to prioritize your well-being and the well-being of your triplets. Given the complexity of your situation, it might be best to approach this conversation with your mom in a supportive environment. Bringing the father's family along could provide you with emotional support and help ease the tension, especially considering your mom's past behavior and attitudes.😇


Having a discussion over dinner with both families present could create a more conducive atmosphere for dialogue. This way, you can express your feelings, concerns, and plans for the future while also having the support of those who are willing to help you through this journey.⛄

However, it's important to ensure that your safety and emotional well-being are prioritized in this situation. If you feel uncomfortable or unsafe involving your mom in this discussion, you might consider seeking support from a trusted adult or counselor who can mediate the conversation or provide guidance on how to approach the situation.😄

Remember, you're not alone, and there are people who care about you and are willing to support you through this challenging time. Take things one step at a time and prioritize your own needs and the needs of your future family.🌞
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romasgirl OP March 4th

@BelovedMe

thank you so much for the advice<3

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