You can’t have a positive life with a negative mindset.
Hi there,
My name is Nick. My little inspo for the day is "you can't have a positive life with a negative mindset". I am currently going through a friend breakup and it's hard. It's hard because I've been friends with this dude for a really long time but he's been hanging out with people that make me feel negative and put me down constantly. He invalides my feelings by siding with them or blatantly mediating it. I want to have my feelings and this mess has been going on for about a year. I told him I need space and I am sticking to this quote, "you can't have a positive life with a negative mindset". I am doing something about it and I'm changing things up. I struggle with change. Please feel free to take a look at my forum post on change to read about my journey and thoughts with that. :)
Thank you for sharing, @greysonn. I struggle with having a negative mindset. I tried so hard to think positively, to be grateful, to be helpful to others. Most everyone would think of me as nice, caring, sweet, etc, because I try to be that way. Sometimes I would just feel down, depress, discouraged, irritable, angry. (I've been to therapist and told that I am mildly depress. I stopped going because my insurance wouldn't cover it anymore.)
Anyways, my husband only wants to surround himself with people who have positive mindset, much like you, and he's lost friendships. I thank God that he hasn't given up on me. I'm trying to work towards being more positive without having to go to a therapist.
Right now, I feel like it's impossible to do so.
@friendlySkies6250
Thank you for sharing as well! You inspire me, keep pushing forward. Also, I know there is some free resources out there in terms of therapy. The whole insurance thing has been a struggle for me as well so I can see where you are coming from. Please message me if you would like some resources :)
@greysonn
Thank you so much for opening up about this in the Positivity Space, Nick! 
I truly understand your position and can recall my own hurtful memories of going through friendship breakups. They are really never easy, with every friendship, it feels like we unlock a new level to its hurt and it's pretty damn painful to realize that there is always something new we need to accept with every end to a connection.
However, reading your story, I was really impressed knowing you are aware of how the connection with your friend was hurting you and wasn't right for you. No friend should put someone down, whether it is them or even their own friends. If you are not one of the people doing the wrong thing, at the very least, don't be the person who supports it (even when you keep quiet, you are supporting the idea further). I hope staying away from your friend and his friends is helping you. You really cannot heal in the environment you were hurt in. So you are already doing great things here, Nick! I loved your forum post on your views on change too, I believe I interacted with you in that, it was really a lovely read!
I am wishing the best with your moving on/letting go/growth journey, you are truly doing a great job with sharing your views here in this space, thank you so much!
The point is, people improve when they get external love and support. How can we hold it against them when they don't?
@lueurspace
Thank you for your response. Friendship breakups are the worst aren't they. Sometimes, when you think the storm has passed, you realize you were just in the eye of it. I felt like that a lot in this friendship. I couldn't agre with you more, "If you are not one of the people doing the wrong thing, at the very least, don't be the person who supports it". Exactly! I appreciate you and your responses to my posts. :)