Boundaries - My step 20

If you don't communicate the boundaries then the outcome could be completely different in each other's eyes

@Arrowdust

You are right, and it is very important to discuss so many things before getting into a serious relationship and certainly, if possible before having children. So many fights in the relationship are about who makes the money, how the money is spent, how the children are raised, what kind of discipline will be used, to be religious, to not be religious. When two people are in love, they don't see each others faults and overlook obviousl problems like alcohol/drug use, jealousy, controlling behavior and anger. It is also sometime impossible to see that we are in love with a person that will help us create the exact family dynamic we escaped from as a child, only because we are so attracted to what is familiar and are reacting emotionally and not rationally. It is so hard to stop and think when the attraction is so strong, which is why it is helpful to date or be engaged for at least a year, giving the hormones and emotions time to quiet down and give your higher functioning brain a chance to evaluate the actual reality of the relationship. If love is forever, what is waiting a year and dating and getting to really know each other going to take away from that love?

Boundaries in every type of relationship are a necessity for your health, happiness and sanity.

MsJessica55