help is my friend flirting or are we just besties
I have the age old wlw dilemma of "crushing on my bestie, maybe we're just really good friends" so i thought i'd ask strangers on the internet their opinion.
this has been going on for about a year. i want to tell her but i'm scared. i just want to lay out some stuff here and get your opinions on it.
we fake flirt but i don't know if she's just joking around or not. we were talking about her spending the night at my house and doing a jokey bit about her being flustered about it; "ok bustie i mean bestie" and "for dinner can you make melon i mean cucumber i mean um." we kiss each other's hands sometimes, and we joke about getting married; we "joke" about how we'd propose to each other, what rings we'd get each other, joking that the lady at the ring store at the mall thought we were shopping for engagement rings, etc. i compliment how she looks and she rubs my back and tells me i'm cute. she draws cartoony pictures of us holding hands with a heart. we sent flirty gifs and she says "we're practically dating" and "are we dating now 👩❤️💋👩" and "maybe we could go to a fancy restaurant then we'd actually be dating, just kidding!" i don't know man, sometimes it seems like there's definitely a vibe there but then all of it could just be us being besties. i want clarity but i'm scared, and if i'm being honest i really like her, and i've resorted to asking strangers on the internet about it.
@warmheartedEast8702 If it's clarity you are seeking, the best person to ask would be your best friend. I can tell you really like her and there's nothing wrong with that. I suppose it's just one of those things that happen when you share sweet moments with someone and spend a lot of time together. Granted, I know it's apart of friendship but you just never know. It's understandable that you are scared. It's scary sometimes opening up to others about our feelings. But the same way you expressed your feelings to us here about how you feel about her is something you can hopefully do with her. It can be hard. And for some, they find it risky especially since they do not want to jeopardize the friendship. I see how some of the things said and done come off as being flirtatious, but we really can't say for sure if it's because she wants something more with you. Sometimes some people are natural flirts and they don't even notice it. If the fake flirting is hurting you in anyway, it may be best to talk to her about it. And if you need to, establish boundaries within the friendship. The best way to get clarity is to just ask, but that is something you have to decide for yourself. I hope things work out in your desired favor. Goodluck!
