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energeticNickel4804 June 5th, 2022

so i started questioning in 2020 (as you do) and i came out to a few of my friends as bi, but since then ive been going back and forth between lesbian and bi, and i really don't know. like a few months ago i was like. yes. definately lesbian. but then there was one boy that i thought was attractive, but like idk. i also kinda feel scared though, because im still a teenager, i can hide it from my parents. but when i get older? want to get married? what then? if im bisexual then ig i have a chance of avoiding it all and marrying a man, but it doesn't feel right. my whole family as well, its really scary. ive never really thought about it that much probably out of protecting myself, but i dont know anymore. i don't know what to do.

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xuchristina June 8th, 2022

Hi @energeticNickel4804 , like you I have had a rough time dealing with my own identity and sexuality and especially with the question, "what am i?" And I just wanted to come on here and let you know that you don't have to decide so early on. Life is a journey and it'll take time for you to truly discover yourself and who you are as a person. Coming out is hard and coming to terms with not being straight is hard as well but there will always be an inviting community. Also, just a side note, if you haven't been in a relationship yet, it could be difficult to know for yourself but that doesn't apply to everyone. Coming out to parents is probably the toughest thing in the process of discovering yourself and if you're not ready now, you have time to do so in the future. If they react badly then did they really love you? Not to sound harsh but if your child comes out is the breaking point then you are a bad parent. Anyways I wish you luck and for your success. Cheers!