confused constantly

I don’t know if I’m lesbian or bisexual. I’ve been questioning it all for about 3 years. I thought I had it figured out but I don’t still. I’ve been going as bi because it just felt the most comfortable at the time but now I don’t know how to feel.

I had a bf this year and it was my first real romantic relationship and we had already been friends for a couple of years so I felt really strongly towards him. But I’m not sure if it was romantically. I wanted to hug him, I wanted to tell him I loved him and I did but it didn’t feel right. And he wanted to kiss and hold hands and do all of those things and again, I was kinda uncomfortable. I felt kinda upset about it because I didn’t want to hurt him and he never pushed it on me to do those things but he was a very touch starved person and physical touch was his love language. But I was never physically attracted to him. He didn’t have anything that made me feel romantic towards him. We broke up in October then briefly got back together but the same thing happened.

My mom asked me the other day, “Isn’t that boy cute?” And I was like “no, not really” and she brought up how I never told her how I was interested in guys or anything. Then she asked me “do you like girls?” And I didn’t want to answer (I’m scared of how she’ll react lol) but then I started thinking and I do find girls physically attractive. I’ve had crushes on a lot of girls. I’d never had crushes towards guys really (except my ex-bf as mentioned before?) I’ve never felt butterflies in my stomach around guys as I had around girls. All my celebrity crushes are girls.

I don’t ever feel sexually attracted towards either because I’m asexual, but girls are so pretty. And I feel safer dating a girl.

But I don’t know because maybe I’ll like a guy in the future? Maybe I just haven’t met the right type of guys?

Help me please. I’m sorry this is so long btw. <3