Unnaceptance

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@Sun38294

As a parent of a child who came out to us..... i have some insight ....

Some parents have issues period.... perhaps culture/ how they grew up etc.... but far more i have met and interacted with it was a matter of time to re-adjust.

my spouse seemed very anti- on the surface......... and i am sure that is why it took a while for child to come out.... but in reality he took it better then anyone might have expected, better then me............

i took it harder....... because my ideas/ dreams of what their life would be...... changed. I have now met and spoke with many parents and kids ..... I helped one person resolve their family issue in sharing a perspective they might not have considered.... she saw her moms reaction differently from then on and was able to reconnect.

while i had heard of parents who disowned or threw someone out ....... i have NEVER met one ........only met people working through things/ ideas that often sounds silly when spoken aloud

Moms go through if it was their fault genetically?...... or how they raised child etc?..... do others blame them? ......will friends / neighbors etc judge? ........ see sounds like nonsense but have heard from other parents and it is real.....

maybe i was afraid ...... never told my mother before she passed ..... looking back i do not know why. .........judgement? or older generation may not understand?.... sure it made sense then to me.

but on her death bed she asked if my child had found someone........ which upon reflection was her way of saying she knew ............ it was then i knew i put roadblock up where there was no reason....