I am kinda having a wtf moment with my girlfriend
look- i know she is busy, but i realized that she hasnt talked to me in almost 2 days! I really like her, and i know she likes me, I am just confused. A few days ago we were talking for hours on facetime. I know she is probably just busy, because her school load is still big, but bruh, attention please? I know she will just text back and i will get over myself, but still...
Am I just crazy or insecure? or would this also annoy other people?
@Kat6123 it's possible she doesn't know this bothers you! I know for some people, like you (and me), it feels annoying or personal when someone doesn't contact you every day, because for us it feels like it should be an indicator that you care about someone. But not everyone feels that way, it's possible your girlfriend doesn't see frequent contact as important for showing you care, it might not even cross her mind that it could be annoying to someone else! Especially if she's busy, it's weird times. And I also don't know your girlfriend, but if she has anxiety or depression, that may play a role in her ability to contact you. (For example, she may not want to be annoying, or may not have the energy to text you, etc).
The best thing to do here, and really a good rule for having a healthy relationship in general, is to just be open and honest about how you're feeling. If something she does annoys you, talk to her about it rather than keeping it inside and hoping she notices. Letting her know things that are important to you help keep expectations clear. But you have to also be willing to work with her comforts as well, and come to an agreeable middle ground.
