What are we still fighting for as the members of LGBTQ+
Is it just me or does anyone else feel weird about straight people supporting us? Like when they say things like "I am an advocate for LGBTQ rights", "I support LGBTQ", and "This doesn't change a thing between us", I feel weird. In simple words, how would a straight person feel when a gay guy supports him for being a hetero? I know it all boils down to the "reality of the world", but you do understand what my problem is right? I feel weird just like if it happens to them. Help me out here. I would really like a discussion.
@krishkkreddy
Hi beautiful soul🌸
I totally get where you're coming from, and you're not alone in feeling this way. It's like when someone points out something about you that you already know is normal, but suddenly, it feels like a big deal. When straight people say they support the LGBTQ+ community, even though their intentions are usually good, it can sometimes feel like they're making it about something that shouldn't need "extra support" in the first place, right? It’s almost like they’re highlighting a difference when all you want is for things to feel normal and equal.Think of it this way—if someone went out of their way to say, “I support you for being straight,” it would feel weird, because being straight isn’t something that usually needs defending or support. It’s just how they are, and it doesn’t need to be pointed out. The same applies here, and that’s what’s making you feel awkward.What might help is understanding that some straight people are genuinely trying to show they’re on your side in a world where, unfortunately, there’s still prejudice. They might feel like saying something is better than staying silent, even if their words sometimes miss the mark. Maybe a good middle ground would be to just let them know that while you appreciate the support, what you really want is for your identity to be seen as natural and not something that needs special attention.It's a complicated mix of emotions, and you're allowed to feel weird about it. The conversation is valuable, though—it opens up space for people to learn how to be allies in a way that feels natural and respectful for everyone.
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@tranquilechoes
First of all, I am really grateful for your response.
I have not explored the world as much as many of our community have. I mostly stay at home and go to worst-case scenarios every time. Maybe things are not as hectic as I imagine. And I haven't experienced a situation where I can appreciate a straight person's support to our community. For now, their support makes it look like we are a community of beggars or homeless people. Sorry for the harsh words but as I said, worst-case scenario problem. I do not, in any way, undermine the sacrifices made by the past generations of our community who fought for the rights we enjoy today. Neither do I undermine straight people's intention of standing up for us when we are ridiculed and attacked. But as you said, making it a big thing is the problem. I have never heard a straight person saying we are special. I always heard them saying we are different and it's okay. And even if they say we are special, they add an extra phrase at the end, "in your own way". God, it just twists my guts. They want to support us but don't want to go all the way. If they say that they support us, all they get from me is "I appreciate your support". It will be on the surface. Because deep down, I can only be grateful for the support from our community to our community. I just want to say, it's gentle souls like you who make it a little safer to be in this world. 💖
@krishkkreddy
Hi beautiful soul its been awhile 🌸
I’m really glad you shared all of this with me. I totally get where you're coming from, and your words aren’t harsh at all—they’re honest, and that’s what matters. I can see how the whole "different" versus "special" thing can get frustrating, like people are trying but not fully understanding. It’s like they don’t know how to fully connect. And yeah, there’s definitely something deeper when the support comes from within the community. It’s like there’s no need for explanations, just that unspoken understanding that makes all the difference. I’m always here if you ever want to chat more, whether it’s about this or anything else on your mind. You can reach out whenever—you’re not alone in this.Â
I'll wait for your reply 🌸
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