Dealing with Homophobia
Hi all. I'm a queer teen in a very anti-LGBTQ area of the Midwest. I'm out to some groups in my life as queer, and even less as NB/demiboy. I want to be out in general but don't usually know if I'm safe in most groups. Some of my friends are openly out as queer or queergender individuals and I have so much respect for them and wish I was but I fear for not only myself. Last summer my dad felt physically threatened because of my sexuality and I felt really guilty as I didn't even know how this man would have known. My parents and immediate family are very supportive and know about my sexuality (not my gender). Homophobia in my school greatly affected the last relationship I had and I'm sure will affect more in my future. I also don't know how reasonable what my parents say is but I don't blame them because I also do not know. They would generally like me to be out to as few people here as possible and act "straight" in unsafe groups which I usually do anyway but is that reasonable? That's a lot of thoughts down, let me know what you think and leave your thoughts/personal experiences. Thanks everyone
I'm gonna be honest with you man, most people don't care what you are or identify yourself as, not to sound cruel but I mean people don't sit in groups and go "I hate he calls himself that" they will see you as however you see fit. Try not to make it everything in your life because most of the time people think that way think that's your whole personality and think it's odd because sometimes those people are stupid. but you just gotta show them your an actual person who just feels differently then them, nothing wrong with it. People are accepting and if they are trying to actually suppress you for being whatever you feel than they aren't the best stock and you shouldn't worry about them because nobody likes a bigot. Nobody will dislike you for being who you are they might be surprised at first if you've really hidden it but they won't hold a torch to you for being you. Be honest my guy it'll work out fine.
School is over faster than you think and the world is always becoming more accepting. The reason those people are like that is because they are simpleminded there are alot more reasonable people than there are idiots but the idiots are loud so tune them out. It's your life don't let people who you don't care about affect it.
