Advice!!
Recently, I’ve been thinking a lot about my sexuality. I know for sure I’m not straight I’ve known since 1st grade. The problem I have that’s really angering me, is the fact that I never got to come out ON MY OWN. The girl first girl I ever dated is taking credit for my sexuality Bc ppl think she “turned me out” which she definitely didn’t. Not only that, my cousin told my mom!! So I neverrrrrr got the chance to say anything!! And ppl keep tryna label me Nd say I’m bi. STOP LABELING ME. I could be lesbian for all y’all kno. So, not only did I not get a chance to come out, everybody’s labeling me as bi and I never once said that!! I’m jus so irritated. I really want to experience figuring out my identity and coming out. I wasn’t even COMFORTABLE with my sexuality when everyone found out. And so many ppl in my life are coming out and happy w themselves and I jus feel like I can’t be Bc that was already taken from me.
@emotionalApple6786 It is frustrating that people keep thinking they know you well and impose their labels on you. Maybe you can keep exploring your sexuality while distancing yourself from those who irritate you too much. When you feel like you have understood your identity enough, you can come out anew. For now, perhaps making a statement telling people to stop labeling you, or just accept that you're queer?
I was thinking about labeling myself as queer but I did research and saw that queer is used as a LGBTQ+ slur? So yeah I think I’ll try to tell them to stop labeling me and once I find out what I am I’ll come out. Thank you❤️
@emotionalApple6786 it's not a slur as long as folks from the community use it :)