Married to a woman attracted to men
I am married to a woman but have always been attracted to chubby guys for as long as I can remember. I am very kind to my wife and take good care of her. But I have always fought my urges and sometimes I am on the verge of giving in to my urges. Are there guys like me out there who can relate? How do you cope/manage?
@struggling2211
are you comfortable talking candidly to her? even just sharing the urges and how you've kept them at bay shows sincerity i'd think. at any rate i am giving this a bump for you for others to see and help!
@struggling2211
If you are no longer sexually attracted to her and only prefer men, it might be a problem for you and your wife. If so, you will live in a constant state of suffocation. You cannot pursue your urges and your wife gets nothing out of a husband-wife relationship. But if you are also attracted to your wife, it becomes a little more complex. I for once don't know how I would handle it. Should I tell my wife about this or should I just keep it a secret so nobody gets hurt? I am more concerned about your life as a human being. I think you should start thinking about what you really want in life and pursue it. Because you only have one life that you can remember, and I would hate it if you don't give your soul what it truly wants. I would also feel bad for your wife because after all she has invested her entire life in you. But if you don't figure out what you truly want, you will end up hurting you and your wife even more. I would like to discuss this further.
I choose my wife. And that's how I have been managing my urges. I don't ever want to hurt her. Its a price I am willing to pay. It's okay. We don't always get what we want.
@struggling2211
Then let me just say that you are a strong man. It's not that easy to break you. Only a very few people have the strength and courage to fulfill their responsibilities on this wretched planet. A true fighter fights a war inside but still manages to be there for their loved ones. And you are one. I wish the future ahead of you is full of happiness. Sorry if my words were harsh. This is my first time in a forum and I didn't know that even our writing has a tone. Someone just answered one of my posts and they were very kind. I just needed an example. From now on, I will take extra care. Sorry to pry. Have a nice day.
My dear friend, I can’t imagine the struggle you’re going through but sound like you need someone or any of us to talk to and support you through this journey. You’re not alone in this. If you need a friend or any of us to talk to, remember you’re not alone.
@Struggling2211
