Living part-time as me.
Ever since November 3rd, 2019. I lived part time as male. Changed my pronouns and name. And it is impossible for me to live full time as male unless I get my own place. July 23rd, 2024 I have top surgery. And that is why I am writing this today. I am beginning to worry I might end up losing my job over being trans. Soon I will have to let my job know I need a week off work. To ensure I get the days off I need. I know I will loose my family over this when word gets out. I am tired of hiding and having to pretend. Well my job does know I go by Finn, they do not know I am trans. And I just don't know what to. Because after I have this surgery, my whole world and everything I've worked for will come to an end. I want to be finally free and to be able to be who I am without fear or worry.
@IntrovertFinn
Hello Finn, thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and feelings about what might happen in the future, but it is just that, it might happen, it might not.
I am so proud of you for taking that step forward and getting the top surgery so you can feel more comfortable with your body; at the end of the day, it doesn't matter what job you have or what family you have or where you live or anything, you live with your body so if there's anything you can do to make yourself more confident. It's done safely; then I support you!
You have a great community here, and I hope you utilise them, such as the discussions for LGBTQIA+, so you can find people in similar shoes to you and then work a way in the future where you are confident and safe.
I wish you the best, and I hope things work out.
@IntrovertFinn thank you for sharing this. I'm sorry about this, you don't deserve to go through all this suffering just for being who you are. And yet you're still on this journey, which shows just how strong you are.
Since they already know at your job you go by a male name, your surgery might not completely be a surprise to them. They will probably see it coming, or at least it won't be too unexpected. My advice is to get the support of a local LGBT center, if there's any near you: they can provide you with peer support and the emotional help you need to go through this, but they might also be able to offer legal counseling if you experience workplace discrimination, or even worse if you lose your job (but since they already accept you by your chosen name, that might not even happen!).
I wish you the best!
