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User Profile: Amymimy2711
Amymimy2711 December 8th

I discovered I’m a lesbian this year, but I’ve been raised in church my hole life, my hole family is Christian or Catholic and hate lgbt ppl. The problem is that I was very active in church and I like the things there, I don’t want to stop of being Christian…but I can’t hear more preaching about gays and stuff, every time I hear one, I think about just never coming out and pretend I’m straight my hole life(Good luck babe from Chappel roan haunts me) I know that I can’t be in religion if I’m a lesbian, but I don’t want to leave like this, i just want some opinions I think. I still think the Bible is right, and my subconscious is just driving me crazy with nightmares that I’m going to ***, I kinda believe I am going too…I just want opinions, how do you guys deal with that?

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User Profile: Aayla
Aayla December 8th
@Amymimy2711 this is a hard situation for sure, but not uncommon at all. A lot of people went through the same and they all found the solution that works best for them - in these cases there is no right or wrong answer, just a solution that fits you better than others.
I'm not religious, but I used to be, and I understand what it means to feel attached to those beliefs and that environment. In my opinion, it's possible to be a Christian, hold those beliefs and behave in a way that fits the Christian principles, without being part of an organized church. Yes, you have things in common with them, but how long can you stay between them by pretending to be someone you're not? If they don't know the real you, they don't really love and accept you, just their idealized version of you.
Your sexuality is no sin. It doesn't harm anyone as long as you love in an altruistic, selfless way, which is (or should be) the core of Christian principles. If they refuse to understand this, they are the ones who do not spread the non-judgmental Christian love.

So what should you do? It depends on you. It's your right to express your true self without having to lie about your identity, and it's also your right to believe whatever feels true to you, regardless of what other people think of you. One thing is sure: even if the people in your church reject you, you will never be alone. There will always be someone out there who can accept you as you are and have your back.
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User Profile: Amymimy2711
Amymimy2711 OP December 8th

Yeah, I know they only like the idea of me, actually thats something I think too much. All the persons that I love, my family, my relatives, ppl that I see like sisters and brothers, that had grow up with me, only know this fake perfect version that created for them. I don’t really have someone to give me support if I come out, and even that I try to believe I’m not a sin, I fail and hate this feelings again. I don’t know if I love Jesus or if I just want to be someone I’m not, so they can love me, but I’ll try to figure this out when I turn 18. I feel like I’m living my life for the others since I was born, and I don’t want to pretend to be straight anymore. You’re right I can no longer pretend…

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User Profile: Aayla
Aayla December 9th
@Amymimy2711 take all the time you need to figure things out, I'm sure you'll find your own path. Meanwhile, a good way to look for support would be reaching out to people who went through the same experience. I know there are LGBT centers that bave specific groups for religious LGBT people, they might not be as common everywhere but you can also try to look for similar groups online. Sharing each other's stories might help you figure out your own path, or at least feel less alone.
I wish you all the best!
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