Attraction vs Validation
Dear Ladies,
I’m sure this probably a lifelong and nonlinear discovery. I’m wondering when it comes to men, how can we tell if it’s attraction or validation? Could what I feel might be attraction actually be my subconscious need for male validation? I’m curious what others journeys are with this question!
@Aayla thanks for sharing all this! ❤️
I feel like it seems natural for us to seek validation to a to a degree. Aside from patriarchy, it’s super important for children to receive love and validation and approval from their opposite-sex parent more so than the other. So as little girls we seek validation from the important men in our lives (father, stepfather, brother, etc). It’s also crucial for us to be empowered as we develop so as to not need it as much. However if that doesn’t happen we have to do it ourselves - which is probably what the deconstruction you were referring to involves.
What you shared was helpful and inspiring. I’m on my way!