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another episode of: am I ace or am I just a “late bloomer”

Merthe March 12th, 2021

I think I might be asexual, because I don't really like the idea of sex. I do like the idea of romance, but I'm not sure if I actually am like, romantically attracted to people either. I think I'm romantically attracted to girls, mostly, but I'm once again not sure about all this. I've never really had a crush, as far as I remember. I've found people attractive though. However I'm only 16 and people say I might just be a late bloomer. Either way I'm very confused, thank you for your attention.

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Asher March 13th, 2021

Thank you for sharing that with us Merthe, it can be tough to not know what to do about it all. Maybe it be worth to test the waters and see how things go from there. I wish you the best and here if you need any support.

IsabelElysian2 March 13th, 2021

There's no need to label yourself if you don't want to. Honestly? Just experiment, figure out what you like or don't like. There's no rush so don't be pressured by other people or yourself okies

TaranWanderer March 14th, 2021

@Merthe I'm surprised 16 is considered late, that's still so young! Incredibly young. I would say you don't have to worry at all about 1) comparing yourself to where you "should be" (which to be honest, I'd say you're still at the perfect age for your attractions to have not developed yet) or 2) what you might feel in the future. If this is how you feel now, that's what matters. There's nothing wrong with resonating with the ace label now, regardless of whatever future feelings you have. And, there's also nothing wrong with just feeling how you feel without needing to force a label on it if you don't want to. Remember: labels are not "things" that you "are", they are just words to express the complicated feelings you have inside. Use them as you see fit