Course 3: PL 102 - The Problem is the Path (Discussion 1)
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Hello LDP Team!
I am enjoying this program and I hope that you all are finding it helpful and meaningful! I'm excited about this next course. The problem is the path is the core insight that helps us evolve as individuals and as a community here on 7 Cups.
Here is an overview of this course:
Course Description: It is natural for us to want to avoid problems. Problems can cause worry, anxiety, and frustration. These are feelings that we often want to avoid. Problems, however, are the key to growth. When we face our problems directly we get smarter and grow stronger. A saying that captures this is: Progress = Pain + Reflection. This course helps you learn the value of problems by highlighting the difference between problems you might be concerned about and problems you can directly solve. Next, it walks you through the ancient practice of steering into problems directly in order to unlock their value and gifts. Finally, it helps you identify and measure progress so you can make continued gains in your personal and professional life.
1. Watch the following video and identify 3 things in your circle of concern, 3 things in your circle of influence, and 1 thing you can do to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence.
2. Next, watch the following video and highlight what stands out to you about this executive? What did they do that would be considered proactive as opposed to reactive?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uj8dmSgQa1c
Bonus: Check out chapter 8 of the book 7 Cups for the Searching Soul (more in the next discussion) for a deeper dive into learning more about accepting what we cannot control.
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(edited by @SoulfullyAButterfly on 29/1/2021 to update (1) to replace it with a working YouTube link)
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@GlenM
1. Identify 3 things in your circle of concern, 3 things in your circle of influence, and 1 thing you can do to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence.
Circle of Concern - how other people see me, the virus itself, other's actions that affect my life
Circle of Influence - how I present myself, keeping myself sanitized and safe, keeping on top of my tasks and what I need to do
If I continually tell myself "I am the one thing in life I can control" then it'll remind me to focus on only what I can control
2. Next, watch the following video and highlight what stands out to you about this executive? What did they do that would be considered proactive as opposed to reactive?
Instead of complaining and talking about what needs to be fixed, he fixed it, and did what everyone else needed to happen. He acted proactively, and went to work right away, and realized that nothing will get better if all people do is talk about the problem rather than fix it.
@BeautifulMasterpiece
"I am the one thing in life I can control" ◀︎ Totally agreed! Wonderful answers ❤️
1.
circle of concern: family problems, school, friends
circle of influence: being a moderator between family members, actively work hard regarding school work, spend quality time with friends
one thing I can do: remind myself of my responsibilities and capabilities.
2.
He was proactive and focused on his circle of influence, he was able to clearly comprehend the situation.
@SophieWX
Thanks a lot for sharing your response, I agree with what you said.
1. My health, if my doctors know what they are doing, the health care system, pacing, utilizing the medications I have, figuring out diagnoses on my own, what I have figured out already.
2. I found what was being said in the video was very generalized, it did seem like he focused in on a few key messages the president put out as a way to empathize and anticipate his needs, although that wasn't really directly stated. I did find it funny he was referred to as Batman in the captions. Anticipating, empathizing, taking initiative, compensating for the president's weaknesses instead of criticizing them were ways we was proactive instead of reactive.
@GlenM
Discussion 1:
1. 3 things on my circle of concerns:
my partner, my health, my family
3 things in my circle of influence:
gain weight, improve my personality, manage my schedule better
1 thing you can do to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence:
that it'll help me relieve stress
2. He was proactive and focused on his circle of influence. He also didn't find weaknesses as relevant. he managed to expand his circle and it became a success
@KateDoskocilova great answer!
1: Health, family, and education
2: Healthcare, politics, human rights
3: To focus on the problems that I can work on and improve on.
4: That we sometimes can extend ourselves too much.
5: To work on problems that we help than to help issues that are too far outside of concern of influence circle.
@GlenM
3 things in your circle of concern: my health, my dissertation and my university applications
3 things in your circle of influence: 1) continue my routine of eating right and working out; 2) working with a schedule that suits me best, and 3) accepting my admissions as it is.
1 thing you can do to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence.
I can remind myself that these are factors that benefit me in the long run so pouring in my work now is better than procratinating later.
2. what stands out to you about this executive? What did they do that would be considered proactive as opposed to reactive?
He was proactive in making sure to pick up where the president fell i.e., in his interactions with the other employees. The executive did what he could to bridge the gap between the employees and the president.
@pizzaiscool
It sounds that your really focusing on those goals and using them to understand. Got any tips on being produceful?
1. Identify 3 things in your circle of concern, 3 things in your circle of influence, and 1 thing you can do to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence.
· Three things in my circle of concern are – my grades, current events in the world, and my family’s health
· Three things in my circle of influence are – my study habits, how I consume news and other media, and the time I spend with my family
One thing I would say to myself would be, “My responsibility is only how I react towards and deal with problems that come my way. The problem itself is not my fault.”
2. Highlight what stands out to you about this executive? What did they do that would be considered proactive as opposed to reactive?
The executive did not complain about their situation – instead, they focused on what they can do, and what they can control. They understood and empathized with the president, and they compensated for the president’s weaknesses with their own efforts. This proactive behaviour led them to become highly trusted and well respected.
@NorahListens
It sounds that schooling is important to you which is important as we all don't want to fail. Do you see these concerns shifting as you grow older?
@NorahListens
wonderful wonderful post! well done:)
Watch the following video and identify 3 things in your circle of concern, 3 things in your circle of influence, and 1 thing you can do to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence.
Influence: My family, my partner's well-being and my education
Circle of influence: How much effort I put in to learning, my relationship, and the environment around me
I can focus on my circle of influence by reminding myself that I am in charge of my own efforts, nobody else's
Next, watch the following video and highlight what stands out to you about this executive? What did they do that would be considered proactive as opposed to reactive?
What was most noticeable to me was the difference between the executive and the people around him, when they were busy complaining, the executive chose to do something instead of sitting around whining. This was proactive, he was taking action and seeing what he can do better, instead of his colleagues who focused on their annoyance about what they couldn't control, a reactive approach
@GlenM
1. Three things in my circle of concern are: the distance between me and my boyfriend, my grandmother's cancer, my current last year at the university / the changes in education because of covid-19.
Three things in my circle of influence that I can do something about: Spend time with my beloved ones, study with a system, incorporate healthy habits and positive thoughts.
I can start focusing on the steps I can take to feel stronger to change things. I need to remember that only if I don't get overwhelmed by anxiety I will be able to change some things and that's why I want to relief the stress by doing things that I like.
2. The person worked in a company where the president seemed controlling and caused the employees to think negatively about it and not being willing to help. But this wouldn’t change the situation. He on the other hand decided to listen to his concerns with empathy and do the best he could to help him. This had as a result to expand his circle of influence because he gained the trust of the president and the respect of his coworkers. The president did not see him as a threat as cooperating with this person complimented his own strength and diminished his weaknesses. Choosing to focus on his circle of influence made his stand out.
@GlenM
3 things in your circle of concern, 3 things in your circle of influence, and 1 thing you can do to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence.
Family and personal wellbeing, financially independent and reaching personal goals.
Remember my dad, what he became today from what he was. He’s my ultimate source of inspiration.
Next, watch the following video and highlight what stands out to you about this executive? What did they do that would be considered proactive as opposed to reactive? The proactiveness. He read the situation very well.
