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Do some of you use this day as a self care celebration? (To both care for you and feel safe/cared for). What rebranding have you given it otherwise?

GiraffesAreCHOPNS February 14th, 2020

Ive been so relieved from recent personal progress and I've been happy about this day coming along. I wanted to share and open this topic if anyone feels the same regarding this day.

What does this day mean to you (unconventional, or conventional significance)? It seems like a very useful holiday to rebrand imo.

For me, todays a sort of self care, self protection, self sympathy/understanding, etc. celebration from certain years back. For about 5 years at some point I went a bit crazy intense and obsessed about complex resilience, self conditioning structures (with flexible opposites), intense stress/sleep deprivation routines, ‘management modes, unconditional acceptance of things, analysis, associative states of ideas/emotions/etc., [etc.].

Lots of dualities and very contrasted parts of me formed to function through a lot of different circumstances/restrictions. Unfortunately, their harmony/functionality and my general cohesion really broke in march 2018, so I got very dysfunctional internally for awhile. It felt extremely intense and impossible to work on those things since then, but very recently I felt like I could start developing myself to some extent from those roots again. I feel both like I can take care of me (to some limited degree) and like I can be cared for, if thats relatable.

This is so happy and Im so grateful for things to be in a very slightly hopeful direction internally. The day's a bit less bittersweet and easier due to that, and it's such a convenient occasion to celebrate.

Nowadays, I'm for varieties of complex reasons very far from anything this day usually is about, so I just felt like asking if this particular rebranding is a common occurrence, and what other ones are there.

***It's very similar to the inner child thing, if not equivalent, so I'd assume I'm not alone for it.***

I want to share this and express it quite a lot today in a pretty happy carefree way - like its the best thing and I want to share my joy and interest more. I feel like this is a good topic too.

What broke the sort of system in me is that I would be unreliable and hurt myself in mean-spirited ways midway during punishments; dissimulating the hypersensitive personal part as an usual absolute process in that context made it feel both in a bad place, abused and unable to escape. It was a bit of a necessary Achilles heel for that situation, but still. Now my expression is validated and encouraged, which is so absolutely foreign and opposite comparatively. I wouldve hurt myself for hours for any feeling thatd have been slightly positive about maybe considering things like this.

[Sorry that this text is choppy : it was restructured from a text where I tried to exclude certain topics too connected with those I had mentioned. Sorry for poor English also, I never use it irl. Repeated sleep deprivation might've helped actually writing, but butchered some of it, also.]

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SamuelFrancis March 28th, 2020

@GiraffesAreCHOPNS Glad you are using this as self-care to look after yourself.