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Am i being selfish

User Profile: Musicisgreat123
Musicisgreat123 September 26th, 2022

I love my best friend so much. I’ve known her all her life. She’s my ride or die and we tell each other everything like literally everything but we go to a camp every year with some friends we know from there and she was talking about her crush to one of our friends from there that we’ve only become friends with last year and I didn’t know about her crush she hasn’t told me. How I found out was cause the friend she was talking about her crush to assumed that I knew cause we always tell each other when we like someone but I didn’t know I had to find out from Toby slipping the name out.


she said that she doesn’t even like her anymore and she started liking her when she first came to the group that she met her at (I was going there before she was) which was months ago and I found out when she didn’t like her anymore so I couldn’t be excited with her like we always are when one of us has a crush.


I don’t mind that she didn’t tell me it’s just cause I had to find out from someone she had told that she’s been friends with for a year but I’ve been friends with her since we could talk and she didn’t tell me and she told our other best friend when she first knew she liked her


i respect if she doesn’t want to tell me but i don’t want her to feel like she can’t tell me things.

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User Profile: Yzrrain528
Yzrrain528 September 26th, 2022

@Tillysoper14

It's not selfishness, it's how much you value her. If she doesn't want to tell you, but you want to know, and help her. You can try other methods.

User Profile: Daf8
Daf8 October 14th, 2022
❤️ Hello, wondrous one ❤️
❤️ You are not being selfish! Your reaction is completely natural, and your feelings are valid. The fact that you found out because of the other friend and not her, your best friend since forever, can be hurtful and frustrating. It doesn't make you selfish of "bad": you are being a beautiful and loving best friend that cares about the friendship and her. She's blessed to have you ❤️
❤️ Besides, you are respectful of her and her decisions! You are being an attentive, understanding, thoughtful, amorous and excellent friend: the way you care about how she might feel about telling you things is truly heartwarming ❤️
❤️ How do you feel about talking about this and your feelings with her? After all, you might feel like you need some reassurance and support, and she'll surely be happy to be there for her impressive and magnificent friend ❤️
❤️ Lastly, I admire you and your commitment as a friend. She has the best friend she could have asked for ❤️
❤️ Of course, you have my (and 7 Cups') support ❤️