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Amanda84 July 22nd

Hello everyone, my name is Amanda84, I wanted to say hello to you all and I hope that you are all doing well and having a good day :) The hardest thing I have been through is grief, you go through so many emotions, there is no set time to grief, the hardest thing for me is, that it sometimes comes in waves and other times, it comes out of the blue, you hear a certain song and suddenly you are transported back to a time and a place with that special person. Love is so strong that sometimes, people don't know what to say when someone is grieving, because ultimately, the pain will always be there, but I am interested in hearing what has gotten other people through hard times and grief? What has worked for me is always doing something special on their birthdays, at Christmas, at Halloween, at Easter, to incorporate their memories into my everyday life :)

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@Amanda84

Lovely to meet you, Amanda, and that's so well said, and super relatable.❤

Grief does come in waves, and after many many years of grieving, I can attest that, no, it doesn't stop anywhere, nor have I ever felt the "same" ever since, a part is missing, but what does comfort me is that, the people who left with parts of me, left some parts of them with me too.

Without them being in-person with me too, there's something of theirs that belonged to them, now within me.

In a way, they are around still, for as long as this heart beats, this heart remembers. For as long as this heart remembers, it loves. For as long as this heart loves, it grieves.

For as long as this heart grieves, it remains unchanged. ❤

Mhmm what helps me *thinks* honestly, not much, just something to remember though, "....the show must go on".❤

I'm vv glad you found some sense of solace in honoring them on special days and incorporating their memories into your beautiful moments in the present.🥰

Kristynsmama July 25th

@Amanda84

Hi Amanda.  Thank you so much for sharing your post.  I think you said a lot of really important things.  Grief is definitely unpredictable- and it can and often does come in waves or out of the blue.


i think that what has helped me the most in healing from the loss of my sweet daughter has been doing acts of kindness in her honor and including her in holiday celebrations and doing something special on her birthday.