Loss of a sibling…
My older brother passed away a year as of September and it still hurts to know I’ll never see him again. Our memories together seem so distant now and I when I forget he’s gone it hits me like a ton of bricks that he has passed and it feels like it wasn’t a year ago but yesterday. I really hope he is at peace and knows how much he was and is loved ❤️🩹
@HappyBellaa17 I am so sorry for your loss. Losing a loved one is hard. Like you, I have a lost a sibling and it was a loss that was unfamiliar to me. There's nothing I can say or do to take away your pain, but I want you to know that you are not alone. <3 A loss is still a loss and it doesn't matter how long it as been. You have every right to grieve the way you do and I just hope in time you are able to find healing and peace. I hope that by you holding onto your sweet memories with and of him that it helps you during this time. Feel your emotions and just take life as it comes each day at a time. I also want to let you know that it is ok if you don't think of him or your loss some days. It does not make you a bad sibling because you live your life still nor does it take away from the love you have for your brother. <3 Please take care of yourself. Xoxo.
i would like to say I’m very sorry for your loss 🤍 a sibling loss is something so unfamiliar and unexpected as you expect you will grow old with them. Thank you so much for taking the time to share your own experience and your words have touched me deeply. Especially the part about continuing to live and not feeling guilty as I definitely struggled with that.
Again thank you so much for your kinds words and compassion xxx
@HappyBellaa17 You are so very welcome. I just felt the need to mention it, because it was something I could relate to. ♡ You are as sweet as can be and I am so sorry that it took you sharing such a sad loss in order to come across you. ♡ Sending a hug your way if it’s ok with you. Xoxo.
@HappyBellaa17
I am terribly sorry about your loss.
Our colleague seems to be right: We may learn how to live with the pain, but the loss is never forgotten completely.
My partner passed away two years ago. I still remember how much I felt "carrying the weight of the entire sky falling rocks on me" standing over her grave, when for the first time dark November 1st hit me so close personally.
We were meant to be a "power couple" in helping people. She was a school psychologist, while I was involved in activities connected with people recovering from their childhood traumas. After she had passed away a thought came to my mind that she had moved to somewhere else, and now I have to live my life for two - for myself and for her, too. For her "on the other side of our world" to be rather proud of me than ashamed.
It was late spring, and on one of the first Sundays without her I went to a cafe and ordered some ice cream - but HER favourite taste, not mine! Such small gestures gave me a strong feeling of connection that can deny death.
How would you feel about the idea that finally we might meet our beloved persons who passed away... some day?
Thank you for sharing something so beautiful and potentially painful with me 🤍 I’m so sorry for your loss friend. the love you shared sounds so pure and beautiful. You must feel lucky to have had the chance to experience something so real and such a connection with another. Although our losses were within different relationship dynamics I believe that love is such a pure and powerful thing and to not be able to physically see the person the feelings, of grief, lost love and time are similar.
I love that you’ve found a way to keep her memory alive and to still enjoy her presence and who she is. something that can make you smile and remember her fondly instead of focusing on the sadness. You’ve inspired me to think of a way I could potentially do the same for my brother. I haven’t had the nerve yet to go to his grave or say goodbye properly, as I didn’t want the situation to be real. I was afraid if I do go to his grave I wouldn’t be able to recover. I’m building up to it and hoping to visit him next year on his heavenly birthday.
thank you for giving me something to think about and a different perspective. Something positive that I could do for him and not just focus on the loss but the fact I was blessed enough to have experienced him and shared his time on this earth with him. Thank you again.
@happybellaa17 I'm really sorry for your loss. All you feelings make complete sense and must be so hard to deal with. I don't think the ones we love ever truly leave us. And I'm sure your brother still knows how much you love him. It's really hard to go on living, knowing we can't see the ones who have passed on. But they will always be with us... in our hearts, our minds and our lives, even if not in the physical. Strength and peace to you Bellaa 😊
