Losing Important People In life
Hey so I'm not entirely sure if spilling my guts on this website will be helpful or hurtful or maybe even against the rules? (Pls dont ban me!) But I just saw some other entries where people were talking about their feelings and people responding so kindly and with so much support so I just wanted to try some things out.
I've lost a couple really important people in my life over the past year. It's not something I really talk about because everyone who has experienced those same losses have such different coping mechanisms that it's hard for me and them to be on the same level.
My best friend for almost eight years decided to move on from me last year, it was one of the hardest things I had ever gone through. And right before that happened, my brother moved out and stopped talking to my family. Then me and my male crush at the time had a bunch of fights and parted ways, same with another friend.
It's so so so hard for people to cope when you feel like your support group is falling apart. And now, I feel like we're just supposed to pretend like nothing happened? Ignore each other in the halls, if my brother ever reaches out i'm just supposed to forgive him, and just in general pretend your life still goes on just fine without those people. Because those people are darn good at looking like they're just fine without me.
I don't mean to make anybody sad or revisit past feelings if they've ever experienced some sort of similar loss, but I just needed to tell somebody that wasn't angry when I was sad, or crying when I was fuming. Sometimes it's good to just let the feelings out.
xx
@LlamaTreeMe Hey there :) You are absolutely allowed to share your feelings and I hope this was helpful<3 I'm glad you were able to talk about your pain.
People cope differently, that's very true but we all share an understanding of how difficult it can be to deal with loss of any kind and that connects us all. I get what you mean though and I hope you find people you can relate to, there's a kind of healing in finding people who are on the same level.
I think accepting that people change is one of the hardest lessons we learn in life. And it hurts even more when 'accepting it' is all that we can do about it. I don't understand it either, I've lost people who I still miss because of all the memories.
Maybe It's hard for you because you genuinely care. There's nothing wrong in hurting and longing for those who leave but it's also important to know your worth, you deserve to get the same amount of love and support that you give to others. You deserve to express yourself and your feelings without someone making you feel guilty about it.
