A process, a journey --- not a single step, not the final destination. 🌻

Sunisshiningandsoareyou June 20th, 2021

Hello everyone coming across, addressing the difficult times we are in, with so much loss around, it is only natural to feel spiraling, feeling lonely and the waves of grief rushing back, please know that it is okay to feel so, your grief, your hurt, your pain, your frustration, how-ever you're feeling is so valid. 💛

We often forget to be patient with ourselves, it is such a huge change to simply not see / hear / touch a certain someone, when we lose someone, we also lose a part of us and it is true, so many changes, big changes, life long ones, because this person only told us how to love them and be dependent on their company, sadly they didn't teach us how to continue life without them and sadly we never really know how to, just try to manage somehow (?).

It is so not easy, those who say "time heals everything", can take it back maybe, because nothing can truly heal the void left behind by the person we loved, nothing can heal it completely, the void will always be there, what time really does is to teach us and make us feel used to the pain, we get used to the suffering, the loss, and then over time, the void isn't as large as it was before.

It is still there but less affecting, in that case, time is essential, we deserve to take our time to process our emotions, and take as much needed, no one's in rush, and we are allowed our pace, time doesn't heal anything, we heal ourselves over the period of time! Or maybe we just get more used to it, and get better at coping with our loss. 💛

My heart goes out to everyone suffering, trying to build yourself back after losing a love one~ it is not easy, never will be, you'll somehow just learn to live with the loss, things may seem to change, and they will, but know that you are there for yourself as you should be and take your time to adjust through it all!

While I know nothing can make it the same, life moves on and so shall we, and all we can do is to try and keep moving, keep the good memories in heart to cherish forever, the moments, the laughs, the conversations, each of it.

We do what we can, first step being accepting the loss, the grief, facing those feelings no matter how difficult it gets, bottling up will only increase the pain I feel, it's needed to acknowledge the feelings, seek support when needed, feel free to be vulnerable (as much difficult it seems, Vulnerability is a sign of strength and you're allowed to feel it too), feel free to lean on someone you find supportive, talk it out, ask for support, pat yourself for keep on going despite all the hardships, feel free to cry it out~ crying could be helpful for some of us, take care of yourself while you grieve and just taking it all, one thing at a time, you're doing so great, keep holding on, and keep moving forwards, at your pace and time ofcourse. 💛

Sending big warm hugs to everyone needing or wanting them, know that you're not alone, and I for one am super proud of you for trying your best and holding on tight! 💛

VisionInRoseBlush June 20th, 2021

@Sunisshiningandsoareyou This is such a heartwarming post and I can feel the amount of care and love you put into it. Loss is a difficult topic to talk about so it can be hard to know where to go or how to feel. I appreciate you taking the time out and making this lovely post <3
I love the part about taking it back whenever anyone says that "time heals everything" cause it's true that time does no healing, it is us who struggle and grow, just to heal ourselves a little more every day. And in many case, time brings the grim realisation and acceptance of what we have lost and that can be soul crushing. So it's important to know that grieving doesn't follow a liner pattern and sometimes the acceptance comes first and sometimes it comes latter. Sometimes the pain comes back in waves and sometimes it is so overwhelming that we feel like we are back again at the first step. Don't expect to feel a certain way and let yourself grieve the way it wants to, we just need to be kind to our self and keep the faith in our love and beliefs. <3

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Sunisshiningandsoareyou OP August 25th, 2021

Aww thankyou for the kind words @VisionInRoseBlush , means alot. ❤
I agree with you about everything, sometimes the realization hits hard unexpectedly and it just feels like we are back to square one , we sure can be patient with ourselves , grief is personal ~ Yes and it may look different for different people , super okay to just *be* , allow the feelings flow and over time just getting used to the loss ~ very hard but the only option unfortunately! Least of all ,Yes , we ain't alone and the love and beliefs we shared are still closeby in a warm fuzzy place ~ safe and secured , I think that's somewhat comforting. ❤

I appreciate your reply, thanks so so much ! Hugs 🤗

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resourcefulPond1641 September 14th, 2021

@Sunisshiningandsoareyou

I am struggling with grief myself currently, and I wanted to thank you for writing this post. It meant a lot to me.

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Sunisshiningandsoareyou OP September 14th, 2021

Hey @resourcefulPond1641 , I am sorry to hear that youre struggling with loss and grief . If somehow my words here gave you even slightest of relief and validation, I am more than glad to be of some support during this hard time !
Thankyou for taking the time to read and appreciate.
I can understand how difficult this time must be for you , please take all your time to accept the loss and process the grief and hang in there .
Sending beams of love and strength ❤

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