A Healthy Friendship

Goodness and badness are subjective to one’s ideals.

Still, you will find absolutely no one who perfectly fits into your subjective ideals. No one is perfect after all.

Therefore, you decide to form any kind of relationships with those, who are mostly ‘good’ according to your standards and you are willing and able to tolerate the ‘badness’ in them.

Your vibes match and sometimes you tolerate each other. Sometimes you have disagreements but sort them out without shouting or disrespecting each other. You remember that the “good” according to you, already outweighed these petty disagreements. You laugh a lot together, joke around but never disrespect disrespect each other’s boundaries. You can be vulnerable with them, cry together, without the fear of being judged as weak.

But mostly, you feel energised, loved, cared for , still independent and always growing , when you interact and spend time with them.

That’s definitely a healthy friendship. Be grateful and never let such people go.

If it’s a nothing but the opposite, that’s a toxic and mostly unhealthy friendship for you.

A healthy friendship is like a balanced diet. Balanced diets are infamous for being boring. They aren’t actually. ‘Cause balanced diets have everything in adequate proportion. Balanced diet doesn’t mean you have to cut off all the sugar or fat. And a healthy friendship as well doesn’t cut you out from all the fun either. It has everything, fun, laughter, excitement, sorrow, growth, and what not but in required limits.

A toxic friendship is like having a delicious yet unhealthy diet everyday. You may enjoy it for the initial attention and fake validation you receive in the moment but in long run such friendships have a hampering effects on your personality. You feel dependent on them. You may feel the same withdrawal symptoms like after any drug abuse once you’re in such a place.

Choose friends wisely!