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unassumingcoconut123 February 9th, 2023

I don't know how to comfort people, I know the reason, but no matter how hard I try I can't comfort people, all I grew up with was "Do you want me to give you something to cry about", and obviously I can't say that to my friends/girlfriend, and that is clearly not how to comfort someone, but i just don't know how...

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toughTiger6481 February 9th, 2023

@unassumingCoconut7468

you sound like you grew up in my house.... lol

Empathy really is not my strong suit either .... faked the give a crap about someones problems but found that is often unappreciated .....and easy to spot.

so now i give advice or comfort by trying to relate it to other items.... i can relate to ........

example my friend who has an addict in family........... i can relate to the person in my life who is very overweight i say "until both SEE their issue on their own .........and do the work we can't force or fix them" that seemed to comfort my friend in feelings about her family addict.