Is flirting cheating?
Would you walk away from a 3year marriage because of your husband flirting with his female colleagues?
In my opinion, yes flirting is cheating. But hear me out, although it is awful what he is doing. You guys should atleast talk before making a decision like leaving your marriage. Him flirting with other woman is definitely wrong and a form of cheating because at the end of the day he is entertaining other woman with the idea of getting together and doing things with them. And who knows he just might go through with those ideas. But before he has the chance to do anything other than flirting sit down and talk to him and let him know that you know and that you don't like it and it's wrong. And if he doesn't stop his flirting then you should leave and hopefully that'll keep him in check. Now if he continues to flirt and cheat and ends up doing much worse than just flirting, then yes I say run at that point because if he's willing to flirt and entertain these other women then he's willing to do more. I'm sorry you are going through this it must be heartbreaking and I wish you good luck and much love. Stay strong
Thank you so much for this response. I've got to admit that I was living in a bubble. Thinking I had a perfect marriage. But the flirting got me blind sighted. I never though that would be something I would deal with in my marriage. He really knows how to pretend he's innocent. Anyway, I thank God I found about it now. Now I know the kind of man I'm dealing with. We've talked and he has apologized. But I will stay guarded. I also plan to put my things in check. I thought we were operating as one team but apparently I'm the only team player in this marriage. As a woman I can forgive but not forget. I'm not about to be bitten twice. Time to work on my career, work on my nest egg and be ready to move Incase there's a repeat. A tiger cannot change its stripes lol!
Tough question but I think we can do better than get angry for saying hello to a Co worker we all have seen this happen before, it works better to just sit down with that person and ask seriously in a background that does not look like a vacation happened there, but then again everything is more exciting when you're grown up I think. Good luck.
@scarletWheel62 Yes
@scarletWheel62
I'm so sorry you had to go through this! I like your thought process about working on your career. Best of luck!
I’m sorry you had to go through that.This reminds me of my ex boyfriend who used to flirt with co workers or strangers all the time and he wouldn’t apologize even though I expressed to him how that hurt my feelings he always said I’m too “sensitive “.We went on a night out one time and a random girl was touching him and being flirty,I asked him to tell her to stop but he didn’t and later on said he didn’t want to be rude!This was his main excuse all the time that he was just being “ nice”.This was my last straw. I hope your husband treats this situation with seriousness and I wish you all the best.
@freesoul1111 sending hugs your way 🤗🤗🤗 it's a tough situation to be in. You feel like you've lost the emotional connection with him. You feel like his attention is being diverted elsewhere. And the worst part is the unapologetic nature. Mine started with the excuses until I found an explicit text and there was no explaining himself out of that, that's when he apologied.
Men can go through the toughest of times and some of them are not fully adult yet. The situation seems heated, but I bet you do whatever to just get through the day and night. Men just seem to use up each straw and come up with something not as serious at all that is just Men being Men and you should not fault them or the stars just please agree.
@scarletWheel62
There are different levels someone would call flirting ... but in general flirting....... NO it is NOT cheating.
Sometimes people joke around especially with work mates and it is innocent and just for fun ......
I think some people who had that situation escalate decided that even small things are Cheating ....... they are not ............................but if you dig deeper and assume every move is a CLUE ... you can build almost anything into an issue.
Frankly I think all partners but especially women should have some separate money and skills for jobs and options open IF a relationship fails....... far too many get into situations where they have no reserve to make decisions and find themselves stuck.
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Getting married is a big step now that you are an adult who suffers through mental disorders. Feel empowered each time you get up from a fall and happy holidays. You will face many hardships knowing now, as an adult you are entitled many things though it might seem like gossip and good luck.
Is flirting cheating? People define cheating in different ways, so some will say "yes", and others will say "no." It matters more how you feel about it. I will say at the very least, it's generally a sign of disrespect towards your partner -- unless both parties have mutually agreed upon enjoying something like that. Otherwise, it's a violation of boundaries. You clearly don't like it and have expressed this to him. Now the ball is in his court to correct/respect it.
In order for things to improve, his apology will have to be genuine and not just words to save face. Time will tell whether he genuinely wants to improve or not. If so, his actions will match his words.
Good on you for knowing your worth and preparing yourself in case of the worst. Not tolerating continual disrespect from a partner is a good deal breaker to have. Still, it really sucks to have the rug pulled out from under you like that.
@scarletWheel62
I'd be upset and try to talk to him about first but if it goes any further or he doesn't stop after the conversation then I'd probably consider it
