advice on long term goals ?
hi so today i was going to this class that i attend for every tuesday which goes over independent living skills and such and to make a long story short today we were going over time managament/stress and one thing that was brought up that i couldn't stop thinking about which was long term goals. now for context a while back one of my goals was trying to save up for a laptop for video editing but just as i had saved up all my funds to get it things went south and i had to help my dad with bills and before i knew it all my hard work was essentially gone so then i tried to make up for it and save up again but i eventually gave up on it,fast foward a few months later and i wanted to try and modify my bike into an E-bike in case i ever find luck with employment so it would be easier to get around town. it's not like i'm being overly ambitious or anything but it really feels like whenever i have a set goal it's like i end up running in circles as opposed to making any sense of progress. does anyone have any coping strategies or advice for how they achieved things that felt impossible to accomplish?
@Lonewolf360
Long term goals take resolve and not give up when obstacles pop up in the path to achieve those...... the name also applies LONG.........maybe many years or in a lifetime....
a goal that is hard takes a year or two are by some considered short term...
if we can not rise up after a setback on short term then long term are no longer goals but daydreams IMO. you saved money which can be very hard to do and before finishing you gave the money to your dad for bills ....why did you not start again? did you no longer want the item? or were you feeling defeated and said forget about it.... the conversion on bike did it not go as planned or harder then you anticipated?
These are the killers of many goals ....... i find it fascinating for example a person i know who plays video games and will try over and over to level up in game ....... but in life if a plan/ goal gets a setback or level failed they give up or move on...perhaps if many have the resolve they give to other things set on IRL then they can accept starting over to do something again to finally level up.
Honestly the main reason for me giving up the first one is because of a mix between defeat and the fact that trying to save up 500-600 bucks isn't really feasible when you live with a family of four and when you try to rely on yourself by applying to a bunch of places changing job goals and still getting turned down it doesn't really help with the whole motivation factor, then there's the whole bike thing in which I'm starting to realize in hindsight is more of an hypothetical thing on the hopes that I get lucky with an interview
@Lonewolf360
There is some clarity your goals were contingent..... if I get interview when I get this or that job.
i had plans of i would do this or that ......... then guess what i got a job .......that now i do not have time for the plans i hoped to do and had to change or alter when and if my plans were feasible.
plans/ goals require people IMO to learn to adapt and change course as needs arise.... it takes practice.
So it's not the idea or goal that's necessarily bad or impossible to achieve it's my approach for going about it in the way to achieve said goals? Sorry if I'm misinterpreting anything
@Lonewolf360
In my opinion it is more often the approach to tackling a goal/ idea / problem then the item itself....
just a general observation i have made if that helps at all.
I guess I could try taking a more passive approach to things and focusing on the smaller things so I can appreciate and recognize the things I can control as opposed to the bigger things which are pretty much out of my hands, and instead of giving them up entirely I should just put them on the backburner for things to work towards
@Lonewolf360
see you did not need any advice .... you got this.
Thanks for pointing me in the right direction, I think my main issue is that I overthink things and when things start to pile up I get overwhelmed and a bit lost ya know?
