What is something conflicting about a toxic relationship that you are in right now?
I have a toxic relationship with my mother. She has never physically abused me, but she is emotionally abusive. She is the reason I have anxiety and stress related issues, but refuses to believe that I have these issues and chalks it down to me not being able to handle my emotions. She is a total hypocrite. One time she goes through my phone without reason and discovers a secret of mine that I am not willing to share on here but let’s just say it wasn’t anything bad but it had a secret that a child normally confesses on their own and that the parent is proud of them for confessing. And she goes on to say that I can “trust” her when she literally invaded my privacy without missing a beat. But besides that she treats me good so I would like to hear stories like mine so can figure out what to do. Thank you.
@Has6one9 bro I have the exact experience like yours, despite the person was not my mom but my dad. He knew my password and stole my phone to check what I was talking about with my friends online. I was mad by what he had done, yet he felt no guilt for doing so and claimed it was "for your own good". Basically he was just using that for a reason. He had done many more than that, but I have to admit that I don't give a *** now, cause I learned to ignore. I learned to ignore his negative emotions, and I figured out that being positive and kind only to myself inside such a family matters the most. Again, don't try to change them. Entertain and protect yourself makes everything the best. Have a nice day.
@Has6one9 my dad literally stole my rights as a person and put me under a guardianship for no sane reason.
@Has6one9 I can relate. My mom is the same. I have stopped listening to her although I have no friends or anyone to talk to.
For me it's my father. He is honestly the reason I gave body image issues ,anxiety ,depression and ocd etc. He is honestly kinda manipulative and he blackmails me...alot. he used to physically abusive too but now he's gotten a little better on that end and worse on the emotional spectrum. The worst part is that one second he is explosive and the next he is loving. Thats pretty much it bye.
I have been in a toxic relationship with my dad. Ever since I got older, he has been more difficult to get along with. He gets mad at the most minor inconvenience and it impacts everyone in the family. I never know when he will get mad so I isolate from him most of the time, it is like as if I am walking around eggshells when he is near. Most recently he told my mom he wanted to divorce a week after my grandma passed away and let's just say things did not go well. Now he no longer communicates to my mom and my brother. My grandma's funeral was this week, and when he acted emotional during the eulogy he talked about the rest of the family sticking together. However he doesn't act the same way towards us.
@Has6one9
I dont think I'm able to relate to your exact situation but the things you've spoken about have happened to me and I never saw it as abuse. I always chalked it up to a strict mom, yk? Coming from a household where everyone else is the same amount of strict, it seems normal to me. I got my phone back yesterday for the first time in 2 years and today she accused me of messing with it when she locked it so she said she might take it from me again :( I know that most people don't have the same situations but sometimes it helps me to think that it's helping me be more disciplined when I'm alone or in public. I used to hate it because it's made me more dishonest and sneaky. But recently I've come to terms with it and I've managed to brainwash myself to think that I'd rather have a strict family than a distant family that doesn't care about me at all.
