My Parents Have No Respect (Tw)
My parents know that I'm straight. I always have been. I have at least 7 female friends that I hang out with, talk with, and all of that. But when I get a male friend, they make jokes about me and him dating. Okay, that's alright. A little annoying, but fine. Our family likes to joke. But when they make a joke about me having sex, that's too far. I'm 14. Come on. I recently had a friendship break up with someone and it's really been affecting me, since it was my fault. I'm still grieving. They still make jokes about him. And, he was the subject of that sex joke last night. Even though we're done. It ticks me off, and I want to punch something. These jokes aren't okay anymore. I told them this, and yet, I'm not being heard. I'm kind of tempted to say something about changing my sexuality, even though I'm not actually going to. That way they won't be so eager when I meet a guy.
@bixy
If you told your parents how those jokes make you feel and they continue doing it i agree thats disrespectful have you asked them why they keep doing that knowing how it makes you feel? You could try that idea you have but it might be a good idea to first just ask why they keep doing it knowing how bad it makes you feel. This might make them realize that your serious and it really does make you feel bad it might be that they think your joking and it really doesnt make you feel bad at all.
But asking people why if nothing else can give you more info in how they answer so that you can make better decisions about what to try next and if you ever want to talk to someone you can message me anytime
I have the same problem with my parents. I was just released from the hospital (long story) and my friends all got me a welcome back gift. a friend of mine that is a boy gave me 1 too. my mom kept teasing me and calling him my boyfriend.
My advice, is to try to tell them it is a sensitive subject that annoys you. For me it worked, i hope it does for you too <3
@jennysunrise8 @That1FriendlyGirl Thanks guys. I tried to tell my mother how sensitive I am to it, and she just made drama, saying that she'll never tease me about anything again. She's saying it like I'm the problem. It didn't really fix much, but my parents are stubborn. Thanks for the advice. I know I'm not alone, now.
@bixy that might be for the best to just avoid teasing you about anything at all im sorry she is making you feel like your in the wrong for talking about how it made you feel you being upset by those comments is completely valid it would upset anyone
@bixy
I'm just sorry to hear that, I have the same experience too. Whenever I tell my parents that plz don't joke about somethingthat I'm sensitive about they just start saying that I gotta relax and stuff.
For example last week my aunt made fun of me because I just gained weight(I'm depressed and I take antidepressants ) and when I told my parents to say something so that she stop they said it was just a joke!! A joke that I cried 3 days about it
@bixy I’m sorry, that’s really hurtful. Why would your family be so insecure in themselves?
@bixy hello i am a kid who suffers with a big bully step-father it is actually so funny now. I just laugh because i just accept and amplify. This tactic is just going through it and accepting it. Other words just acknowledging it and see what i can do next time. I would probley just say that it is not true. 😂 don't listen to what other people say, i know if you were gone they would have missed you, so just ignore them and laugh. Go in your room and don't go out, this will give them that disappearing effect and it works, trust me. 😂
@bixy
@bixy
This really suckss. Especially when your grieving the person they’re talking about. Them talking about that person only brings up memorys for you, but I hope it gets better. They shouldn’t even talking about you and your friend in that way and making jokes when you guys were friends. Your parents just need something to talk about but eventually the topic will grow old for them. I hope it does get better for you soon. xoxo unfixable123 <3
@bixy
It is never easy to deal with, especially when your close people dont understand difference between being disrespectful/offensive and kidding. Should respect boundaries :)
